my father could have retired before his first tour of vietnam...his reasoning....if all the people who were trained to fight....who had been trained...suddenly got out....you left a bunch of kids to get killed...he didnt enlist to march...he enlisted to fight....he went the first time he was called...he went the last time he was called.....he was away from the family many times...and his was gone for at least a year....never 4 months or 6 months....he couldnt telly phone or email.....all they had was snail mail ....
he received the bronze star for his efforts...and many other things....a whole chest full of ribbons etc...
he dies of cancer....was it agent orange...i dont know...he use to talk about being in a jungle so thick you could nt see your hand extended at arms length...they would call for the orange...it would be dropped..he said within a half hour....it was all gone...and they were breathing this?
i am very proud of my father....
my advice to you...run...get the hell out....enjoy your family....a 4 th is really pushing your luck the odds are against you....
do what you need to do for your family and yourself....you have given 21 years.....thats enough