I'm still puzzled as to how, once it's signed into law by a Governor, that the people can then LEGALLY have someone's rights put to a vote. I mean, this concept tramples all over the Constitution.
The constitution mainly deals with the Federal government. State governments are dealt with via their individual state constitutions, and their own laws. Referendums, generally, are enacted measures in law that allow an act of the legislature to be brought before the people of the state before the law would take effect. It maintains accountability to the people, and helps prevent the state government from becoming too overbearing. No system of government is perfect, but referendums are an important tool to help keep civil power being inherently vested in the people, and preserve the condition of government at the will of the governed.
Let's face it, most every person who would vote against same-sex marriage would do so based on their own personal religion. So, right there, it violates the 1st Amendment by allowing laws to be passed based on the establishment or religion
The first amendment does not in any way impede a voter from voting on a referendum, or candidate for office, based on religious influence or motivation. It deals with limitations upon government to infringe upon people's right to follow whatever religion the choose, don't choose, or feel so compelled to do.
The 5th Amendment prohibits the federal government from taking away your life, liberty, or property without due process of law, and the 14th prohibits the states from doing it. However, here they are, trying to take away the rights of gay couples without giving them their day in court to defend themselves in an attempt to preserve their rights.
The courts have ruled that marriage is a right. However, what you fail to understand is that rights are not absolute. The government has the authority infringe upon any right you may possess. The question is how much limitation is placed on them to infringe upon that right. Due process is essentially the affirmation of the rule of law in the workings of the government. It doesn't really make much sense to say that people voting in a referendum constitutes a due process violation. And to say that anyone is being denied their day in court is completely false. Any person who feels that their rights are being violated by state laws prohibiting gay marriage is free to bring a lawsuit to challenge that law. In Iowa, such a lawsuit was successful, and resulted in homosexuals being deemed a protected class for discrimination purposes, and the state prohibition against gay marriage being struck down.
So, can anyone explain how they get away with this?
Listen, I want you to understand that I fully support gay marriage. It's been recently been made legal in my state, and I'm very happy for that. If it goes to a referendum (I'm inclined to think that won't happen at this point) then I will be there at the polls to vote in favor of the law. But your entire approach to rallying against such prohibitions is entirely flawed.