I comprehend your arguments very well, they were tried before and failed.
"Coloreds had rights that were applied across the board. Every colored person has the same right to marry someone of the same race as everyone else."
We look at that statement today (well most of us) and see it for what it was when presented during Loving, that is hogwash. Same with your trying to parse every woman has the same right to marry, as long as it's a man. The rules back then were defended as not being discriminatory because the rules were applied equally. Today we (well a growing number) laugh at that silly rationalization.
In addition, go back and read my posts I have not attempted to show that "not allowing men to marry men is prohibited anywhere". What is the basis of my argument is that for the government to discriminate against like situated individuals (in the case of individual rights) or couples (in the case of group rights (i.e. race or gender) that under the Grievance Clause of the First Amendment the government must show a compelling government interest to justify such discrimination. In this case, the two most like situated groups (or couples if you will) are law abiding, tax paying, US Citizen, infertile, consenting, non-related, adults in a different-sex relationship who are allowed to Civilly Marry compared to law abiding, tax paying, US Citizen, infertile, consenting, non-related, adults in a different-sex relationship who are not allowed to Civilly Marry.
To date, no justifiable government compelling reason has been presented to warrant such discrimination, and no - tradition, religion, and ick - are not compelling government reasons.
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