A hetero man can't be recruited. It's physically impossible.
Many young people that are hetero adult, experimented with sexuality in their late teens. It might not have gone beyond kissing and fondling, but if they found pleasure, they might have gone farther.
Teens are still finding out who they are.
Gays, usually know they are gay before puberty and struggle to be accepted, to find their place in their society or with their peers.
It is really what dilates the eyes, that can't be faked.
Even "heteros" married for years can find that one person in their own sex. They might have been going through the motion because that was expected and not understood real attraction and love till that one person came into their lives.
Everyone needs to know themselves, not be shoved into someone else's ideal mold for them.
Ancients had family and gay lovers, or slaves of both sex for their pleasure.
Even gays can be attracted to someone of the opposite sex at times, but it usually is "not right", just a fling.
Some gays really have no sexual feeling for women beyond friendship, sometimes good friends.
Sexuality is not cookie cutter precise for each individual for their whole life. It should not matter today or ten years from now.
Happiness for most people can be fleeting till that one soul mate steps into their lives. What you thing was love and what that special someone does to you can be drastically different when it happens. Like taking the sun glasses off.
Let people be happy.