evenifigoalone
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I was abused.Yes...Or you can end up with psychological trauma and mental illness.....Nah, what I mean is that you can strengthen yourself growing up with adversity as opposed to someone who was shielded and protected.This probably really isn't the site for this, but..... whatever.
In my teen years my seemingly healthy family (as far as I knew at least) slowly turned into a living hell, and I became the scapegoat. I got blamed for so many of our problems, and while I was never physically struck or beaten, the damage was still done.
It took me so so long to even sort out what had happened, whether or not it counted as dysfunctional, whether it counted as emotional abuse. I've worked out some stuff in therapy.
Honestly, I thought I was over it. I actually still think I am, mostly..... but last year some stuff happened that effed up my mental health and is still affecting me a year later. And I'm kinda thinking the reason that is, is connected to my history of having been emotionally abused. Idk. I'll bring it up w/ my actual therapist in a couple weeks.
Functional households are over-rated.
They are highly under-rated.
Iām adopted. I grew up in a stable supportive environment. Most people would look at me today and consider me a success.
Iāve met the people who put me up for adoption. Nice people but Itās a giant shitshow. Volatility, alcoholism, multiple fathers, etc. My sister was a single mother at 15 then 18. My brother is a homeless crackhead.
No way Iām the person I am today raised in that environment. I owe everything to my parents.
I have generalized anxiety and social anxiety
Just as you can if you come from a "functional" household.
All I was saying is that it isn't the worst thing in the world to make your kid stretch a bit while growing up instead of being
I didn't say anything about abuse.Yes, you can strengthen yourself as I did, but who needs this abuse because it interferes with the fun you should have when growing up.Nah, what I mean is that you can strengthen yourself growing up with adversity as opposed to someone who was shielded and protected.This probably really isn't the site for this, but..... whatever.
In my teen years my seemingly healthy family (as far as I knew at least) slowly turned into a living hell, and I became the scapegoat. I got blamed for so many of our problems, and while I was never physically struck or beaten, the damage was still done.
It took me so so long to even sort out what had happened, whether or not it counted as dysfunctional, whether it counted as emotional abuse. I've worked out some stuff in therapy.
Honestly, I thought I was over it. I actually still think I am, mostly..... but last year some stuff happened that effed up my mental health and is still affecting me a year later. And I'm kinda thinking the reason that is, is connected to my history of having been emotionally abused. Idk. I'll bring it up w/ my actual therapist in a couple weeks.
Functional households are over-rated.
They are highly under-rated.
Iām adopted. I grew up in a stable supportive environment. Most people would look at me today and consider me a success.
Iāve met the people who put me up for adoption. Nice people but Itās a giant shitshow. Volatility, alcoholism, multiple fathers, etc. My sister was a single mother at 15 then 18. My brother is a homeless crackhead.
No way Iām the person I am today raised in that environment. I owe everything to my parents.
A dsyfunctional household is not a healthy one, it goes beyond enduring a little bit of hardship here and there.