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Although conversations about same-sex couples and their supporters wanting to change birth certificates in MA have taken place in the Religious thread section...a excerpt from Kathleen Parker's latest article on Townhall.Com really struck me today...and since this is going to be a political issue...it seems appropriate to place it here.
Parent A and Parent B - and baby makes C?
http://www.townhall.com/columnists/kathleenparker/kp20050729.shtml
Parent A and Parent B - and baby makes C?
In one case Romney recently had to entertain, two men - one a sperm donor and the other his boyfriend - became "parents" when a woman gave birth to the donor's child. The two men wanted their names on the birth certificate, with the boyfriend replacing the birth mother. In a bold act of increasingly rare sanity, Romney said "no."
No doubt the gentlemen-parents were distressed by this negative intrusion into their familial fantasy, but Romney appears to understand that effectively codifying the "family" of two men and a newborn birthed by a uterobot has extensive implications.
Meanwhile, one can't help but feel sorry for the infant - Baby C, or Thing Three?
"Thing" is used here neither dismissively nor derisively, but as a term of stunning accuracy. Throughout our culture, children have become objectified, "thingified," created or acquired for the fulfillment of our selves - decor options, accessories, cute little bundles for our entertainment and amusement.
Unless, of course, we're not in the mood, in which case we hit the "abort" button, the ultimate expression of "thingification."
As long as children are viewed as mere extensions of our selves, put here to satisfy some narcissistic need for self-actualization, it is easy to suppose that our needs and their needs are complementary. If same-sex marriage is what "I" need, then two same-sex parents are what "my" child needs.
What we know but the courts apparently choose to ignore is that identity and selfhood are rooted, in part, in our biological origins. Adopted children seek out biological parents in their quest for identity. Genealogical organizations do a brisk business as families try to reconstruct their lineage. "Who am I?" keeps psychotherapists in new Volvos.
Obviously, narcissism isn't limited to the gay community, but it is surely at the root of the current skirmish in Massachusetts. What's really behind the push for biology-neutral birth certificates isn't fairness, or equal rights, but the elimination of any biological/procreative connection to parenthood.
Same-sex couples need this and, therefore goes the Seussian Logic, it is good for the children as well as civilization. Once the idea of a biological mother and father is expunged from the culture, there is one less logical impediment to normalizing same-sex marriage, which is, of course, the point.
http://www.townhall.com/columnists/kathleenparker/kp20050729.shtml