This is a subject that REALLY gets my ire up. And this might be a longish reply with no links or sites or articles, as I am going to give each of you my OWN thoughts - deal with it. I tend to respect those of you that post with your OWN opinions more than I respect those of you who must 'prove it' with links of other's opinions.
Get a cup of coffee, sit down and read. Thank you.
First of all, Im going to talk about my first pregnancy even though that is NOT what the thread began about. I got pregnant. I had a 1 in nearly 3 million occurance happen to me, which is I ovulated AGAIN at nearly 3 months along. Boom - got pregnant again.
So I was pregnant with 2 babies at the SAME time who were not twins. When I found this out, the first baby was nearly 5 months along, the second was a little over 2 months along. I did everything the dr said. I prayed. I talked to those sweet souls inside of me and pleaded with my doctors to save them both.
One day, I couldnt wake up appropriately and I was rushed to the hospital - I was suffering from sepsis of some sort. After days of painful testing and worrying it was found that the younger of the 2 had died and that was infecting me and the older baby. This was before the days that in-utero surgery was perfected. I was young - married yes, but young. I was in and out of consciousness. When I woke fully conscious, I was told that in order to save my life, they needed to remove the dead child (they called it a fetus of course). The other died in the process I thought - no I thought wrong. They aborted both.
So I guess that I am the scourge of america and of the heavens both because I 'had an abortion'. Shall I tell you how I suffered through the memorial services that no one wanted me to have for 2 children I never had held in my arms? Shall I tell you how my ex beat the shit out of me yearly for mourning this? Hows about I tell you about the mental anguish I STILL go through knowing that I should have 2 more children at my dinner table but they will never be there - they'll only be in my heart.....a heart that has been torn out and stomped on?
So I guess Im going to hell? I dont think so.
You dont know what I went through, however, this story could be shortened to NOT include pertinent facts and each of you would think Im a 'baby killer'.
This messed me up to where I had several miscarriages before I could even have the 2 wonderful children that Ive been blessed with - after which I had a hysterectomy - not my choice. I still yearn for these other babies I lost. I STILL yearn for the children that me and my husband now (DK) will NEVER have.
If this puts me into murderer category too, then I feel sorrier for you than I do myself. If it doesnt, then I think of you to be the worst kind of hypocrite. (Im using the word 'you' subjectively, btw)
Now, part two.....
This just burns my ass thatanyone could have the absolute temerity to even SUGGEST that I might not or am not a Christian. Yes, I am Metaphysical; no I am not 'new age-y'. Yes I AM A CHRISTIAN. THERE IS NOT ONE PERSON ON THIS BOARD WHO CAN PROVIDE SUFFICIENT PROOF OTHERWISE. NOT ONE.
I AM a Christian and I wont be told Im not. Anyone who dares to tell me such is acting in a not-so-very Christ-like way.
Actually, I think that there is a post that I explained this more than sufficiently somewhere....my own thoughts, yes - but Ive already posted them. Im going to go look for it and if I am incorrect, then I will sit down and write an addendum to this post. Otherwise, I will just link the original post.