You know..one of those people that HAS to invade someone else's space and hug them?
Not me. I have this force field shield that goes up immediately if anyone comes within 3 feet of me. I back up. What's worse is..they throw their arms out like I am going to walk into their embrace? Um. No. And don't come in mine, thankyouverymuch. Or those people that have to get right in your face when they talk to you? Um. No. Back off!
I think it's because I was raised in a non hugging environment. I would hug my dad all the time, so that means I should be a hugger towards men? But that is not the case. When I tried to hug my mom, she would push me away and say I would muss her hair or wrinkle her clothes...so I was "trained" to not hug her. Same with my sister. We never hugged. And now that we are old, we STILL don't do it. We do the fake air hug, light pat pat twice on the shoulder, back way off. I think that is because we used to huddle together when stripped naked and beat with Ma's belt and the only escape we had to avoid the welts and stings was to hug tight..which we were then accused of "being nasty" because our non formed breasts would be touching and that pissed Ma off more where she beat us harder. So not only were we ashamed of "touching" our naked bodies, we were confused and scared on how to protect ourselves. (Ma was a nutbar). Daddy of course never did such things and we used to hide from Ma when she was on the warpath by crawling in his lap and hiding behind his newspaper. But daddy wasn't around most of the time when she went bonkers over whatever wacko reason landed in her fucked up head.
Anyway..I digress. Hugging is a no no for me. BAD. "Nasty". And to this day, I avoid anyone that slings their arms out and wants a hug.
How about you? You a hugger?
