Tom Paine 1949
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I think marriage is a great institution … if two people are taking on the huge responsibility of raising children together, or if they are older and want company and care and partnership later in life. I didn’t get married till very late in life but almost always was in a steady relationship. For me that worked fine. God had nothing to do with it, but I was always faithful to my partners.
Well, in one case my lover went back to Spain every summer and when she left she always said: “Enjoy yourself. You are free. So am I!” That was a bit novel, but I grew to enjoy it. Everything seemed natural, and neither of us felt we were doing anything at all wrong.
I had an immense number of lovers over time and had many good longer-term (4 or 5 years) relationships. I didn’t want children when young — though my brothers all had them. About 60 I changed and started to look for a wife. Found a great one with a child of her own and now enjoy our family and our grandchild too. Everyone is different I guess.
Some people really aren’t good at being a parent, but I found that most of the women I dated appreciated me, as did their kids. The grown-up kids especially appreciated my bringing some love and comfort to their mother, while the young ones, who often had problems, eventually did as well.
Younger children need decent adult figures in their lives — even if just as teachers or mentors or friends who listen. This is why marriage is important, especially if you plan to raise children and give them a stable home. But marriage doesn’t always work. Even kids know this today.
“God” is irrelevant here.
Well, in one case my lover went back to Spain every summer and when she left she always said: “Enjoy yourself. You are free. So am I!” That was a bit novel, but I grew to enjoy it. Everything seemed natural, and neither of us felt we were doing anything at all wrong.
I had an immense number of lovers over time and had many good longer-term (4 or 5 years) relationships. I didn’t want children when young — though my brothers all had them. About 60 I changed and started to look for a wife. Found a great one with a child of her own and now enjoy our family and our grandchild too. Everyone is different I guess.
Some people really aren’t good at being a parent, but I found that most of the women I dated appreciated me, as did their kids. The grown-up kids especially appreciated my bringing some love and comfort to their mother, while the young ones, who often had problems, eventually did as well.
Younger children need decent adult figures in their lives — even if just as teachers or mentors or friends who listen. This is why marriage is important, especially if you plan to raise children and give them a stable home. But marriage doesn’t always work. Even kids know this today.
“God” is irrelevant here.
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