I applaud your steadfast resolve in disobeying a direct order. That is how large-scale evil is averted.
Then we agree on the position of external authority as below internal authority. Now we have to sort out the implications of that acknowledgement.
What does it mean to say that government has authority, but that we have greater authority to decide our own behavior? Is it not to say that government simply does not have authority? In what sense do they have authority if you reserve the right and ability to disobey at your own discretion?
You live in a very black and white world, it seems. Freedom has to be absolute or it does not exist. Authority has to be absolute or it does not exist.
In my world of colors and shades, it is wrong to say that if something is not absolute then it does not exist.
I have authority over my children while they live in my house, but it is not absolute as they can choose to disobey either openly or covertly. But I still have authority over them. If you disagree, then what word would you use to describe the relationship between a child and a parent?
My boss at works holds some authority over me at work, he gets to tell me what kind of clothes to wear, where to be to perform my job, what to do while I am at work and to an extent how to do my job. Now I can choose to ignore one or upto all of these things, and then I would face a consequence for my actions. If you disagree, then what word would you use to describe the relationship between an employee and an employer.
Well, I do admit shades of grey where appropriate, but authority means what it means - it is the right to rule. There’s no room for cherry picking. If there is, then it is not authority because it does not act as the ultimate decision maker.
If you can pick and choose when to obey, then what’s the difference between authority and advice, suggestion, advertising, reading a book, or being exposed to any idea at all? All ideas are subject to your review, and you ultimately choose which to listen to. External authority does not exist in reality, though continuous consent with “authority” will create the illusion that it does.
Maybe parents are stewards and guides at best, and tyrants at worst. Bosses are property owners with the associated rights. They can tell you what to do while you are interacting with their property - the business - but the only rights they have is to tell you to get out if they don’t like what you’re doing, and to defend their property if you won’t leave. One could say their authority is over the property, not you, if we must use the term.