Advice for a Bleak Day…

[Anathema]

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.Maybe make it a day when you can do something special for yourself. Treat yourself especially well.

I might consider booking a massage. Lord knows I need a good 90 minute deep tissue massage. Thanks for the idea.

 

[Anathema]

Try doing something that will refresh good memories of time spent with him.

That’s a tough one, considering how much we argued when he was alive, but I’ll keep it in mind. Thanks.

 

[Anathema]

I am very sorry about your loss. Im old, been thru many losses. I always had a favorite quiet spot to walk to. I made sure it was at least a few miles. Exercise makes things clearer and actually releases good hormones. And remember it’s ok to feel the way you do. Consider it a day you dont need to be productive. Those days are very important.

It’s not a work day so nothing seriously productive was going to get done anyway. My escape spot is generally either in a hot shower or just lying on my bed in the dark and quiet. I enjoy being in nature but I’m still trying to find a good set of trails around my new home area. Thanks for the suggestion.

 

[initforme]

It is those days like you have decribed that bring us back to the realization that all the worries we carry with us really dont matter. Money, work, this, that etc dont amount to
anything in the end. I sincerely hope you find the right recipe for some contentment on that day.

 

[Votto]

I’ve done my best to let go of the stuff related to him personally. I still have major issues with his God/Faith and how things happened.

It enrages me that after a life dedicated to everyone else’s needs he never got to have his own life. Never met his eight grandkids. Never met my wife, or the daughter-in-law who gave him those eight grandkids. Never got to just tinker in the workshop in the basement or relax in his chair and not be worried about everything. Didn’t get to see his three kids fully develop into the men we’ve become.

Here is how I look at losing a loved one, the worse it feels to lose them the better.

It is far better than having no one caring when you die, or even worse, glad that you died.

Your dad seems to have done all the right things in life for you to miss him so badly

Now get out there and make others feel the same way when you pass.

Oh, and make amends with God as God is the only way you two meet again.

He is waiting on you.

 

[Anathema]

Here is how I look at losing a loved one, the worse it feels to lose them the better.

It is far better than having no one caring when you die, or even worse, glad that you died.

Your dad seems to have done all the right things in life for you to miss him so badly

Now get out there and make others feel the same way when you pass.

Oh, and make amends with God as God is the only way you two meet again.

He is waiting on you.

My father and I had/have very different personalities, especially when it comes to dealing with other people. Some will mourn and others will celebrate my eventual demise. That’s just part of being true to myself, honestly.

As for the Almighty… once He admits His own malfeasance and makes that as right as possible, then we can start talking. Until that point, it’s not happening.