Generally, a Speaker or Senate Majority Leader can meet privately with the President and bring up the times they went to bat for the President or helped him get a bill passed and use that as a basis for getting the President to support pending legislation
Neither Boehner or McConnell has any of that. They have poisoned the well with Obama who has shown he is willing to proceed on his own without the Republicans.
Boehner and McConnell going in like they have a blank slate with the President is not going to work. Obama has shown he is going to play hardball
You have that backwards.
The Pres refused to meet with either party in 2009 and up until recently when he called to get the spending bill passed.
That is what our Presidents do and he refused to do that. Now after being there for 6 years he decides he had better get in touch with congress and the leaders.
in order to get things passed.