Is There An Honest Man In The House?

[Bonzi]

I have known men where becoming emotionally attached was a turn OFF.
They needed to think of women as objects to get excited

 

[WinterBorn]

I have known men where becoming emotionally attached was a turn OFF.
They needed to think of women as objects to get excited

I think those guy are either idiots or have serious inferiority complexes.

 

[WinterBorn]

Really this thread is not about boobs and butts (or, was not supposed to be!)

What man on this thread likes being "in love"
Is it better than being horny?

I like being in love! I love being in love!

And yes, it is far better than being horny.

 

[WinterBorn]

Really this thread is not about boobs and butts (or, was not supposed to be!)

What man on this thread likes being "in love"
Is it better than being horny?

I like being horny for the person I am in love with.

Yeah well, I think that would ultimately be the best case!

The question is, now, can be romantically in love with someone and NOT be horny for them?

I can't.

 

[Syriusly]

okay so, I have no adjective to really describe it, so, I'm just going to explain how it seems from MY perspective.

I view sex as "love making" - not that it can't be animalistic, BUT, I have to have a feeling in me that there is POTENTIAL for that person to really fall hard head over heels in love with me. (Selfish, I know, but, it is what it is)..... if there is ZERO potential for that, the sex (for me) is not as good. I have not been a person to enjoy sex purely for the physical satisfaction and recreation of it. Being "one of many" is a turn off for me (again, a self centered and selfish). BUT, at 52 I doubt that will change!

Make sense?

Makes sense for me.

 

[Syriusly]

Really this thread is not about boobs and butts (or, was not supposed to be!)

What man on this thread likes being "in love"
Is it better than being horny?

I like being horny for the person I am in love with.

Yeah well, I think that would ultimately be the best case!

The question is, now, can be romantically in love with someone and NOT be horny for them?

For me? No.

 

[Bonzi]

Really this thread is not about boobs and butts (or, was not supposed to be!)

What man on this thread likes being "in love"
Is it better than being horny?

I like being in love! I love being in love!

And yes, it is far better than being horny.

I'm too emotionally weak to fall in love - I also hate seeing it die.
Because, like in your case, I guess you fall in love with other women, you just know you can't be married to or committed to them. My mind just can't process that! It seems so sad! I must have watched 1 too many romantic movies!!!

 

[Bonzi]

okay so, I have no adjective to really describe it, so, I'm just going to explain how it seems from MY perspective.

I view sex as "love making" - not that it can't be animalistic, BUT, I have to have a feeling in me that there is POTENTIAL for that person to really fall hard head over heels in love with me. (Selfish, I know, but, it is what it is)..... if there is ZERO potential for that, the sex (for me) is not as good. I have not been a person to enjoy sex purely for the physical satisfaction and recreation of it. Being "one of many" is a turn off for me (again, a self centered and selfish). BUT, at 52 I doubt that will change!

Make sense?

Makes sense for me.

I want to be so in love with someone that, I don't want to be with anyone else.
Maybe it's not possible, but I'd rather have nothing.... (I mean, if I had to start over again and were single...)

 

[WinterBorn]

Really this thread is not about boobs and butts (or, was not supposed to be!)

What man on this thread likes being "in love"
Is it better than being horny?

I like being in love! I love being in love!

And yes, it is far better than being horny.

I'm too emotionally weak to fall in love - I also hate seeing it die.
Because, like in your case, I guess you fall in love with other women, you just know you can't be married to or committed to them. My mind just can't process that! It seems so sad! I must have watched 1 too many romantic movies!!!

Not all romantic relationships end up in forever marriages. In fact, most don't. That does not mean the emotional bond was bad or fake.

I can love my girlfriend as much as anyone loves anyone. And I can still love another woman. Not as deeply, but I can still love her. If she thinks she is falling too hard, we deal with it before it gets out of hand.

 

[WinterBorn]

okay so, I have no adjective to really describe it, so, I'm just going to explain how it seems from MY perspective.

I view sex as "love making" - not that it can't be animalistic, BUT, I have to have a feeling in me that there is POTENTIAL for that person to really fall hard head over heels in love with me. (Selfish, I know, but, it is what it is)..... if there is ZERO potential for that, the sex (for me) is not as good. I have not been a person to enjoy sex purely for the physical satisfaction and recreation of it. Being "one of many" is a turn off for me (again, a self centered and selfish). BUT, at 52 I doubt that will change!

Make sense?

Makes sense for me.

I want to be so in love with someone that, I don't want to be with anyone else.
Maybe it's not possible, but I'd rather have nothing.... (I mean, if I had to start over again and were single...)

I am sure it is possible. Whether it will last a lifetime is the question.

 

[Bonzi]

Really this thread is not about boobs and butts (or, was not supposed to be!)

What man on this thread likes being "in love"
Is it better than being horny?

I like being in love! I love being in love!

And yes, it is far better than being horny.

I'm too emotionally weak to fall in love - I also hate seeing it die.
Because, like in your case, I guess you fall in love with other women, you just know you can't be married to or committed to them. My mind just can't process that! It seems so sad! I must have watched 1 too many romantic movies!!!

Not all romantic relationships end up in forever marriages. In fact, most don't. That does not mean the emotional bond was bad or fake.

I can love my girlfriend as much as anyone loves anyone. And I can still love another woman. Not as deeply, but I can still love her. If she thinks she is falling too hard, we deal with it before it gets out of hand.

Have you ever loved a women you felt more love and a stronger connection with than your wife?

 

[Bonzi]

okay so, I have no adjective to really describe it, so, I'm just going to explain how it seems from MY perspective.

I view sex as "love making" - not that it can't be animalistic, BUT, I have to have a feeling in me that there is POTENTIAL for that person to really fall hard head over heels in love with me. (Selfish, I know, but, it is what it is)..... if there is ZERO potential for that, the sex (for me) is not as good. I have not been a person to enjoy sex purely for the physical satisfaction and recreation of it. Being "one of many" is a turn off for me (again, a self centered and selfish). BUT, at 52 I doubt that will change!

Make sense?

Makes sense for me.

I want to be so in love with someone that, I don't want to be with anyone else.
Maybe it's not possible, but I'd rather have nothing.... (I mean, if I had to start over again and were single...)

I am sure it is possible. Whether it will last a lifetime is the question.

well if you have unrealistic expectations, nothing will ever completely satisfy.....

 

[Syriusly]

okay so, I have no adjective to really describe it, so, I'm just going to explain how it seems from MY perspective.

I view sex as "love making" - not that it can't be animalistic, BUT, I have to have a feeling in me that there is POTENTIAL for that person to really fall hard head over heels in love with me. (Selfish, I know, but, it is what it is)..... if there is ZERO potential for that, the sex (for me) is not as good. I have not been a person to enjoy sex purely for the physical satisfaction and recreation of it. Being "one of many" is a turn off for me (again, a self centered and selfish). BUT, at 52 I doubt that will change!

Make sense?

Makes sense for me.

I want to be so in love with someone that, I don't want to be with anyone else.
Maybe it's not possible, but I'd rather have nothing.... (I mean, if I had to start over again and were single...)

Have you ever tried Ecstasy?

So over time, before I met my wife to be I had a decent amount of sexual encounters- and most- most were anywhere from good to fantastic- only very, very few were ones I regretted. But I did find that I preferred to have sex with emotional content- and tended to get emotionally involved with women I had sex with.

I certainly would prefer always to be in love- and love having sex with whom I am with.

But I would prefer to have sex with a woman I care for- but am not in love with- than not having any sex at all.

And if I had no one who I cared for- who wanted to have sex with me- I would probably still enjoy sex- just not as much.

 

[Bonzi]

is it a turn off to have sex with a woman if she cries?
I mean, is crying a turn off sexually?

 

[WinterBorn]

Really this thread is not about boobs and butts (or, was not supposed to be!)

What man on this thread likes being "in love"
Is it better than being horny?

I like being in love! I love being in love!

And yes, it is far better than being horny.

I'm too emotionally weak to fall in love - I also hate seeing it die.
Because, like in your case, I guess you fall in love with other women, you just know you can't be married to or committed to them. My mind just can't process that! It seems so sad! I must have watched 1 too many romantic movies!!!

Not all romantic relationships end up in forever marriages. In fact, most don't. That does not mean the emotional bond was bad or fake.

I can love my girlfriend as much as anyone loves anyone. And I can still love another woman. Not as deeply, but I can still love her. If she thinks she is falling too hard, we deal with it before it gets out of hand.

Have you ever loved a women you felt more love and a stronger connection with than your wife?

My first wife? No, not while we were married. Second wife? Let's just say the marriage lasted longer than the deep love.

 

[WinterBorn]

okay so, I have no adjective to really describe it, so, I'm just going to explain how it seems from MY perspective.

I view sex as "love making" - not that it can't be animalistic, BUT, I have to have a feeling in me that there is POTENTIAL for that person to really fall hard head over heels in love with me. (Selfish, I know, but, it is what it is)..... if there is ZERO potential for that, the sex (for me) is not as good. I have not been a person to enjoy sex purely for the physical satisfaction and recreation of it. Being "one of many" is a turn off for me (again, a self centered and selfish). BUT, at 52 I doubt that will change!

Make sense?

Makes sense for me.

I want to be so in love with someone that, I don't want to be with anyone else.
Maybe it's not possible, but I'd rather have nothing.... (I mean, if I had to start over again and were single...)

I am sure it is possible. Whether it will last a lifetime is the question.

well if you have unrealistic expectations, nothing will ever completely satisfy.....

I don't think I have unrealistic expectations.

 

[WinterBorn]

is it a turn off to have sex with a woman if she cries?
I mean, is crying a turn off sexually?

I would not have sex with a woman if she was crying. I have known two that cried from the cathartic release of the orgasm. But I am guessing that is a different situation than what you are talking about.

 

[Syriusly]

is it a turn off to have sex with a woman if she cries?
I mean, is crying a turn off sexually?

Generally yes- unless she is crying from the sheer joy of having sex with me.

But I can only think of one time that ever happened- and it was a woman suddenly feeling guilty about a boyfriend 8,000 miles a way.

Kind of spoiled the moment.

 

[Bonzi]

Really this thread is not about boobs and butts (or, was not supposed to be!)

What man on this thread likes being "in love"
Is it better than being horny?

I like being in love! I love being in love!

And yes, it is far better than being horny.

I'm too emotionally weak to fall in love - I also hate seeing it die.
Because, like in your case, I guess you fall in love with other women, you just know you can't be married to or committed to them. My mind just can't process that! It seems so sad! I must have watched 1 too many romantic movies!!!

Not all romantic relationships end up in forever marriages. In fact, most don't. That does not mean the emotional bond was bad or fake.

I can love my girlfriend as much as anyone loves anyone. And I can still love another woman. Not as deeply, but I can still love her. If she thinks she is falling too hard, we deal with it before it gets out of hand.

Have you ever loved a women you felt more love and a stronger connection with than your wife?

My first wife? No, not while we were married. Second wife? Let's just say the marriage lasted longer than the deep love.

I mean you CURRENT wife? Is that the 2nd one? Or are you on #3?

 

[Bonzi]

okay so, I have no adjective to really describe it, so, I'm just going to explain how it seems from MY perspective.

I view sex as "love making" - not that it can't be animalistic, BUT, I have to have a feeling in me that there is POTENTIAL for that person to really fall hard head over heels in love with me. (Selfish, I know, but, it is what it is)..... if there is ZERO potential for that, the sex (for me) is not as good. I have not been a person to enjoy sex purely for the physical satisfaction and recreation of it. Being "one of many" is a turn off for me (again, a self centered and selfish). BUT, at 52 I doubt that will change!

Make sense?

Makes sense for me.

I want to be so in love with someone that, I don't want to be with anyone else.
Maybe it's not possible, but I'd rather have nothing.... (I mean, if I had to start over again and were single...)

I am sure it is possible. Whether it will last a lifetime is the question.

well if you have unrealistic expectations, nothing will ever completely satisfy.....

I don't think I have unrealistic expectations.

I think I do!