I am on the cusp of a major life-changing decision...

[Blackrook]

I am divorced, and as of April 1, my daughter will get her own apartment, leaving me with an empty nest for the first time in my adult life.

My ex-wife walked away without any interest in our home. That was her decision, but I now own a home with a lot of equity and I've been thinking it's my retirement nest egg.

But recently, I made a new friend and she is going to China to be an ESL teacher, and she inspired me that maybe I need to make a drastic change as well.

I'm thinking of selling my home, traveling through Europe for a few months, then relocating to New York City.

In New York, I can get a job as an immigration lawyer and then pursue a new career as a writer.

The main reason I want to make a break is because of my ex-wife, who is still in my life despite the fact that she lives with her boyfriend.

My home is still filled with reminders of her, she decorated it, there are pictures everywhere, and she comes in my home any time she feels like it. We are friends, and we still do things together like watch TV and go to movies and bowling and restaurants. She still participates in family events like Thanksgiving and Christmas. She even decorates the house for Christmas and picks out the tree.

I feel like she is holding me back because she has her own separate life with her boyfriend but I do not have separate life without her. If I had a new relationship with a woman, it would be very awkward because my ex-wife would just walk in my home like she still owns the place and then I would have to explain that.

Also, because my ex-wife and I had children very early in our lives, there is lots I've never done, including going to Europe. For the first time in my life I have nothing holding me back and I want to take a long trip to Europe.

I am pretty sure I would get raped on capital gains taxes if I sold my home and did not buy another, but I'm willing to pay the tax so I can get a new beginning in my life, away from my ex-wife.

This would be a big break for me because I would leave behind everyone I know, but I am convinced I can make new friends in New York because I would join writers groups and participate in writers conferences and New York is the center of the world for writing.

I'm not really asking for anyone's permission, I just felt like sharing this.

 

[Moonglow]

I don’t fraternize with exes once they made a decision to split the sheets they are gone and I don’t want them around, and no cuckolding,fags.

 

[Chuz Life]

I am divorced, and as of April 1, my daughter will get her own apartment, leaving me with an empty nest for the first time in my adult life.

My ex-wife walked away without any interest in our home. That was her decision, but I now own a home with a lot of equity and I've been thinking it's my retirement nest egg.

But recently, I made a new friend and she is going to China to be an ESL teacher, and she inspired me that maybe I need to make a drastic change as well.

I'm thinking of selling my home, traveling through Europe for a few months, then relocating to New York City.

In New York, I can get a job as an immigration lawyer and then pursue a new career as a writer.

The main reason I want to make a break is because of my ex-wife, who is still in my life despite the fact that she lives with her boyfriend.

My home is still filled with reminders of her, she decorated it, there are pictures everywhere, and she comes in my home any time she feels like it. We are friends, and we still do things together like watch TV and go to movies and bowling and restaurants. She still participates in family events like Thanksgiving and Christmas. She even decorates the house for Christmas and picks out the tree.

I feel like she is holding me back because she has her own separate life with her boyfriend but I do not have separate life without her. If I had a new relationship with a woman, it would be very awkward because my ex-wife would just walk in my home like she still owns the place and then I would have to explain that.

Also, because my ex-wife and I had children very early in our lives, there is lots I've never done, including going to Europe. For the first time in my life I have nothing holding me back and I want to take a long trip to Europe.

I am pretty sure I would get raped on capital gains taxes if I sold my home and did not buy another, but I'm willing to pay the tax so I can get a new beginning in my life, away from my ex-wife.

This would be a big break for me because I would leave behind everyone I know, but I am convinced I can make new friends in New York because I would join writers groups and participate in writers conferences and New York is the center of the world for writing.

I'm not really asking for anyone's permission, I just felt like sharing this.

Funny how different lives can be.

 

[Blackrook]

I don’t fraternize with exes once they made a decision to split the sheets they are gone and I don’t want them around, and no cuckolding,fags.

My ex-wife and I have 36 years of history together. That's two-thirds of our lives. We also have three children. Perhaps you've never had a relationship like that.

 

[Blackrook]

I am divorced, and as of April 1, my daughter will get her own apartment, leaving me with an empty nest for the first time in my adult life.

My ex-wife walked away without any interest in our home. That was her decision, but I now own a home with a lot of equity and I've been thinking it's my retirement nest egg.

But recently, I made a new friend and she is going to China to be an ESL teacher, and she inspired me that maybe I need to make a drastic change as well.

I'm thinking of selling my home, traveling through Europe for a few months, then relocating to New York City.

In New York, I can get a job as an immigration lawyer and then pursue a new career as a writer.

The main reason I want to make a break is because of my ex-wife, who is still in my life despite the fact that she lives with her boyfriend.

My home is still filled with reminders of her, she decorated it, there are pictures everywhere, and she comes in my home any time she feels like it. We are friends, and we still do things together like watch TV and go to movies and bowling and restaurants. She still participates in family events like Thanksgiving and Christmas. She even decorates the house for Christmas and picks out the tree.

I feel like she is holding me back because she has her own separate life with her boyfriend but I do not have separate life without her. If I had a new relationship with a woman, it would be very awkward because my ex-wife would just walk in my home like she still owns the place and then I would have to explain that.

Also, because my ex-wife and I had children very early in our lives, there is lots I've never done, including going to Europe. For the first time in my life I have nothing holding me back and I want to take a long trip to Europe.

I am pretty sure I would get raped on capital gains taxes if I sold my home and did not buy another, but I'm willing to pay the tax so I can get a new beginning in my life, away from my ex-wife.

This would be a big break for me because I would leave behind everyone I know, but I am convinced I can make new friends in New York because I would join writers groups and participate in writers conferences and New York is the center of the world for writing.

I'm not really asking for anyone's permission, I just felt like sharing this.

Funny how different lives can be.

Yes, of course lives are different.

 

[SweetSue92]

If your kids are adults--and I mean, not 18 and just starting college--I say go. It's surprising how much they still need you around when they just start college. They always need their parents.

I guess you don't need me to tell you that your ex-wife here has "the best of both worlds" and that's not fair to you. She has her home and basically her ex-husband in a lot of ways and the boyfriend too. You can move on. Best wishes!

 

[Blackrook]

I still love my ex-wife and she knows that.

Tonight, I took down all photographs of her and put them under the bed.

Tomorrow, I'm calling an agent and putting my home on the market.

I will also call my tax man to find out how much I will pay in taxes when I sell.

 

[SweetSue92]

I still love my ex-wife and she knows that.

Tonight, I took down all photographs of her and put them under the bed.

Tomorrow, I'm calling an agent and putting my home on the market.

I will also call my tax man to find out how much I will pay in taxes when I sell.

Yeah. And you know, she's enjoying that selfishly. That's not a nice woman that can come into your home and fluff your nest, knowing that you love her, that she doesn't love you back, and do that to you and not let you go. I'm sorry but that's selfish. But you know that, and you're doing the right thing even if it hurts!

 

[Blackrook]

I still love my ex-wife and she knows that.

Tonight, I took down all photographs of her and put them under the bed.

Tomorrow, I'm calling an agent and putting my home on the market.

I will also call my tax man to find out how much I will pay in taxes when I sell.

Yeah. And you know, she's enjoying that selfishly. That's not a nice woman that can come into your home and fluff your nest, knowing that you love her, that she doesn't love you back, and do that to you and not let you go. I'm sorry but that's selfish. But you know that, and you're doing the right thing even if it hurts!

Also, I forgot to mention that she cleans the house once a week, and I pay her $40 each time.

You know what, this sounds worse now that I've shared it with you.

But she made a major error when she left me. She signed away all community property rights to the home and life insurance, everything that I planned to take care of her if I died, she walked away from. She must have figured her new boyfriend would take care of her, but guess what? He's not, she still has to do all her babysitting jobs, and she makes practically no money doing them.

 

[Ridgerunner]

Tomorrow, I'm calling an agent and putting my home on the market.

I will also call my tax man to find out how much I will pay in taxes when I sell.

If you can afford it... And you have your health... Buy some new underwear and hit the road...

I believe the top rate on cap gains is 27%...

 

[SweetSue92]

I still love my ex-wife and she knows that.

Tonight, I took down all photographs of her and put them under the bed.

Tomorrow, I'm calling an agent and putting my home on the market.

I will also call my tax man to find out how much I will pay in taxes when I sell.

Yeah. And you know, she's enjoying that selfishly. That's not a nice woman that can come into your home and fluff your nest, knowing that you love her, that she doesn't love you back, and do that to you and not let you go. I'm sorry but that's selfish. But you know that, and you're doing the right thing even if it hurts!

Also, I forgot to mention that she cleans the house once a week, and I pay her $40 each time.

You know what, this sounds worse now that I've shared it with you.

But she made a major error when she left me. She signed away all community property rights to the home and life insurance, everything that I planned to take care of her if I died, she walked away from. She must have figured her new boyfriend would take care of her, but guess what? He's not, she still has to do all her babysitting jobs, and she makes practically no money doing them.

Well. That was a choice she made. Now you are free to make choices too.

 

[Blackrook]

This is actually my first chance to do something like this, because this is the first time I haven't had one of my children living in my home, depending on me.

 

[SweetSue92]

This is actually my first chance to do something like this, because this is the first time I haven't had one of my children living in my home, depending on me.

Fwiw I would expect that she will freak out and beg you to stay. Be prepared for that.

 

[Blackrook]

This is actually my first chance to do something like this, because this is the first time I haven't had one of my children living in my home, depending on me.

Fwiw I would expect that she will freak out and beg you to stay. Be prepared for that.

The shit may hit the fan when she notices that I've taken down all pictures of her, including our wedding photo.

Yes, I know I should have done this two years ago when we divorced.

 

[Blackrook]

A few months ago, she said we should buy a house together. Imagine that.

 

[SweetSue92]

This is actually my first chance to do something like this, because this is the first time I haven't had one of my children living in my home, depending on me.

Fwiw I would expect that she will freak out and beg you to stay. Be prepared for that.

The shit may hit the fan when she notices that I've taken down all pictures of her, including our wedding photo.

Yes, I know I should have done this two years ago when we divorced.

No sense looking back. Just forward.

 

[SweetSue92]

A few months ago, she said we should buy a house together. Imagine that.

Because of course she did. Ay yie yie

 

[Ridgerunner]

Life can be rather confusing at times...

I was...
married in 1979... Was blessed with 2 fine children... 23 years later...
Divorced 2002... I moved back to Indiana, she stayed in Hawaii... Did not see my ex-wife for 17 years... Moved back to Hawaii in 2017 and presently living with the ex... Life is good and weather is even better...

 

[Blackrook]

Someone told me she was already with the boyfriend before we divorced. I asked her and she denied it.

 

[Blackrook]

Life can be rather confusing at times...

I was...
married in 1979... Was blessed with 2 fine children... 23 years later...
Divorced 2002... I moved back to Indiana, she stayed in Hawaii... Did not see my ex-wife for 17 years... Moved back to Hawaii in 2017 and presently living with the ex... Life is good and weather is even better...

Yes, I think she is holding out that possibility to me so I don't move on.