I have gotten some rep for this post in the oh wow oh wow oh wow thread: My question is this: How does one 'achieve' death. We all die whether we 'achieve' it or not. What makes one person's death different from another person's death? Of course, Jobs knew he was dying. We don't all have that privilege. My husband knew he was dying back in the 80s and I vowed then the way he did it would be my model. Now I have the privilege of knowing as well. Thanks to modern medicine, I may live a little longer after diagnosis than he did, but a person with 5 feet of tubing coming out of her chest is not a healthy person. There's no denying. I am more irreverent than my husband, and I make a lot of jokes about it, flying in the face of the reaper, I guess. But I have completed my task of child rearing. He was losing us all, even his young children. Heartbreaking. Well that's enough of that. Back to the question. What do we do to 'achieve' death. We make a Will. We get our affairs in order. We mend fences. We forgive. What else? Write memoirs? What are your thoughts on this.