- Banned
- #101
This I can relate to...definately! Dated a guy for 6 years that completely destroyed my self confidence/esteem with his cheating. So the next time I went looking...I wanted a guy completely different from him in in every way,and thought I had found one...and I married him. For the first few years it was great,we never fought and did everything together..then BAM.. one day I realized I had married someone I didn't even recognize anymore. Apparently no one ever taught him to never say things in anger you can't take back (I tried to explain it to him,but he wasn't having any part of that.) I seriously could not believe the things that would come out of his mouth...directed at me (he went straight for the throat in an argument, and told me several times it was his goal to "win" ..didn't matter "how" but he really didn't mean any of it.). I quickly learned to never tell him anything that could be used against me in a fight later,which meant we didn't talk...period. At first the verbal abuse used to shut me down completely...but later as time went on, it just made me sarcastic and bitchy. I would pop off with comments like "Wow..such sweet talk...you must want to get lucky later". Then one day I just thought to myself...why the heck am I even still here,I would much rather be alone. And I left him...don't miss him either.
