YES! You just described what I have been doing. I recognize what I saw and heard in the south 45 years ago was a lot different from what you learned either later or in another place. For everything in life I always try to find the origin, then explain to other people it was a lot different than what they may have read about from another source. What you believe now is the opposite of what I was taught in high school. And that is where and why I knew the origin of black/white description was used, and why I refuse to accept either.
The point is simply NEVER JUDGE BY APPEARANCE (no matter how that is described).
My work in many of the United States and twenty countries also taught me a lot of science, especially medical, is also misused. If I believed doctors I would have already been dead four times.
My best friend during time in Viet Nam to now learned the same as I did in the south. He was not allowed in a home in Georgia for fellowship meetings because of his color, but it was not from hatred against him in that house, just that if a neighbor saw him enter the house it would be burned down. That friend also recognized he never wanted to be called black. A Negro can be just as white as anyone else, because we both heard the same description of those colors that I introduced here.
I recognize younger people have a different perspective; Words drastically change meanings. But I just want them to know the real origin, and why I refuse to use them from the horrible meanings I remember.
marvin