Why Women Need Husbands

[bianco]

A provocative (perhaps) opinion piece, about which I imagine there are some opinions here.

Women, men, marriage, family, independence, technology, welfare, education.......it impacts many aspects of society.

Why women still need husbands | Fox News


"So why not let husbands bring home the bulk of the bacon so women can have the balanced lives they seek? There’s no way to be a wife, a mother and a full-time employee and still create balance. But you can have balance by depending on a husband who works full-time and year-round.

I know what you’re going to say. Where are these husbands on whom women can depend? And you’re right: there are fewer men these days who seem eager to be primary breadwinners.

But ask yourself why, and I bet you know the answer."

Men have basically been booted out of the Western workforce, with their jobs taken by women, foreigners overseas, and cultural and religious minorities?

So now women want husbands to be the primary breadwinner so they can have balanced lives?
This must be a joke, right?

 

[Vox]

Looking back, I only thought I needed a husband. Then another....then another....and I later came to realize I am too much for a husband and happier without one. Living alone keeps me strong and independent. I like that much better than sharing myself.

The main point is - you are HAPPY. And you are not making anybody unhappy by your happiness That is called enjoying life

in a modern societiy most of us try both roles - being single and being married. And then everybody makes the choices what suites them best.
The only way it gets very complicated is when children are involved.

 

[edthecynic]

I'm married to music and quite happy that way. And for some reason unknown to me, some females do not seem to mind being the "other woman" in my life.

 

[Lumpy 1]

Digging furiously in my purse, looking for my super duper eye roll smiley.

That is a traditional patriarchal view on the men-women relationships, or, a pendulum were it was before all the liberation started

Now the pendulum is in an opposite extreme position - "who needs the stinky men? certainly not me " where the truth is in the middle - the best option is a loving family, if that happens.
but all other options should not be victimized as there are many roads to happiness.

Looking back, I only thought I needed a husband. Then another....then another....and I later came to realize I am too much for a husband and happier without one. Living alone keeps me strong and independent. I like that much better than sharing myself.

Just wondering, have you ran across some close calls since you made that decision?

 

[ClosedCaption]

I would address your posts point-by-point, but my brain won't stop swearing in tongues. The only identifiable phrase I can pick out is "Know how I know you're a dick?"

When my daughter was young, she wanted a dad. I explained life a bit, and concluded by informing her that me getting married wouldn't guarantee her a good dad any more than it would guarantee me a good husband.

Staying single is what some of us did on the best interest of our child. My stepfather adopted me in fifth grade and adopted me in sixth. They married when I was four, had been together since I was three so yes: I believed him when he explained that this is how young women learned about sex.

Now, I may not represent the norm. But it is my truth. And I did go on to marry a dear friend that I was co-workers with for the better part of a decade. Not for economic reasons, because I knew how to live within my means. No, I married for love.

This thread - it is just crazy to me. Women are supposed to need a man in their life? And then what. Go mildly depressed until she finds her "other half?"

What a load of tosh.

That's great and all that but you just called me a dick, told me that everyone is not the same, then asked a finishing question that no one suggested just to be offended by it.

I didn't say women are "supposed to need a man". I said "women need men" its a simple truth. They will not die without one but they will are so much happier with one.

If you want to call it depression, I wouldn't but I wouldn't say they are happy to be alone either. Again whatever label you want to slap on that feel free just don't mis label it.

Bullshit.

Oh look - more bullshit.

And yet more bullshit.

Why? Because you have yet to apply the same standard to men.

C'mon BDboop...I know you have better than to just say "bullshit". Sorry BD but you wont get me off topic about what standard I hold men too simply because I've never expressed it so you couldnt know.

See you say bullshit but purposefully neglect to say how except saying I'm a hypocrite based on nothing I've ever said.

I actually love this topic. Me and my wife *gasp* have this convo from time to time. I'd love to discuss the finer points but the problem is that women either dont want to hear it (Like saying bullshit when you did in fact call me a dick, change want a man to supposed to want a man, and adding some strange thing about applying "it" to men) or they rely on another man or woman who just so happens to share the same opinion as them.

 

[BDBoop]

That's great and all that but you just called me a dick, told me that everyone is not the same, then asked a finishing question that no one suggested just to be offended by it.

I didn't say women are "supposed to need a man". I said "women need men" its a simple truth. They will not die without one but they will are so much happier with one.

If you want to call it depression, I wouldn't but I wouldn't say they are happy to be alone either. Again whatever label you want to slap on that feel free just don't mis label it.

Bullshit.

Oh look - more bullshit.

And yet more bullshit.

Why? Because you have yet to apply the same standard to men.

C'mon BDboop...I know you have better than to just say "bullshit". Sorry BD but you wont get me off topic about what standard I hold men too simply because I've never expressed it so you couldnt know.

See you say bullshit but purposefully neglect to say how except saying I'm a hypocrite based on nothing I've ever said.

I actually love this topic. Me and my wife *gasp* have this convo from time to time. I'd love to discuss the finer points but the problem is that women either dont want to hear it (Like saying bullshit when you did in fact call me a dick, change want a man to supposed to want a man, and adding some strange thing about applying "it" to men) or they rely on another man or woman who just so happens to share the same opinion as them.

I AM a woman who prefers the single life. My best friend is the same. My best cyber friend as well. We are between 55 and 62.

We also have friends in miserable marriages. You really think any marriage is better than no marriage at all? Really??

And as long as you're claiming it's just some wild coincidence that you haven't mentioned men yet, why don't you chat a bit about that. Because obviously goose-gander, and etc.

 

[ClosedCaption]

This is going off the rails.

No one is saying anything negative about women needing men. Its just the truth. You have to go to great lengths to find a way to be offended instead of finding fault with the message.

Heres the thing. Women find solace in "typical" advice. So they will pay attention to their girlfriends advice or a dude who talks like a woman. This advice is typical and its nothing new.

That's why its so comforting. Its the same old shit.

And all I can wonder now is - who was she. I can see how badly she burned you. I would love to know the specifics.

Why because my opinion is different than your girlfriends? Its so strange to hear a guy advice or opinion who isnt interested in having sex with you. See, when a guy isnt afraid of what you can or will do to them they hear things they arent used too and it bothers them. So they pretend its not real or the result of trauma.

You'd like me to say some stuff like Women and men are the same OR Women are superior because they bring life into this world. You know, the typical stuff.

 

[ClosedCaption]

Bullshit.

Oh look - more bullshit.

And yet more bullshit.

Why? Because you have yet to apply the same standard to men.

C'mon BDboop...I know you have better than to just say "bullshit". Sorry BD but you wont get me off topic about what standard I hold men too simply because I've never expressed it so you couldnt know.

See you say bullshit but purposefully neglect to say how except saying I'm a hypocrite based on nothing I've ever said.

I actually love this topic. Me and my wife *gasp* have this convo from time to time. I'd love to discuss the finer points but the problem is that women either dont want to hear it (Like saying bullshit when you did in fact call me a dick, change want a man to supposed to want a man, and adding some strange thing about applying "it" to men) or they rely on another man or woman who just so happens to share the same opinion as them.

I AM a woman who prefers the single life. My best friend is the same. My best cyber friend as well. We are between 55 and 62.

We also have friends in miserable marriages. You really think any marriage is better than no marriage at all? Really??

And as long as you're claiming it's just some wild coincidence that you haven't mentioned men yet, why don't you chat a bit about that. Because obviously goose-gander, and etc.

BD...Please, when I say some stuff that doesnt apply to 100% of the people 100% of the time and this is not about being personal. Is there some women who like the single life? SURE! Is that a MAJORITY of women?

Uh No!

Any marriage vs no marriage...What? No one said that but again you are twisting my words to disagree with something I never said

I'll talk about men TOO BD...What you wanna know? But I will talk about women too if thats ok

 

[BDBoop]

How do you know that it's not a majority of the women? If you're going to claim it, I would like to see proof that your belief on this front is grounded in reality.

Also, go ahead and talk about how men just aren't truly happy unless they are married.

 

[BDBoop]

This is going off the rails.

No one is saying anything negative about women needing men. Its just the truth. You have to go to great lengths to find a way to be offended instead of finding fault with the message.

Heres the thing. Women find solace in "typical" advice. So they will pay attention to their girlfriends advice or a dude who talks like a woman. This advice is typical and its nothing new.

That's why its so comforting. Its the same old shit.

And all I can wonder now is - who was she. I can see how badly she burned you. I would love to know the specifics.

Why because my opinion is different than your girlfriends? Its so strange to hear a guy advice or opinion who isnt interested in having sex with you. See, when a guy isnt afraid of what you can or will do to them they hear things they arent used too and it bothers them. So they pretend its not real or the result of trauma.

You'd like me to say some stuff like Women and men are the same OR Women are superior because they bring life into this world. You know, the typical stuff.

You'll have to excuse me. I guess I wasn't paying enough attention. I was under the impression you were intelligent. Maybe your avatar is misleading, who knows.

Any rate - I don't bother with people on this board who aren't at least somewhere in the realm of levelheaded and well-informed.

 

[ClosedCaption]

How do you know that it's not a majority of the women? If you're going to claim it, I would like to see proof that your belief on this front is grounded in reality.

Also, go ahead and talk about how men just aren't truly happy unless they are married.

The best indication that I know you KNOW that a majority of women prefer a husband is because instead of saying that's not true you asked me HOW do I know its true.

For instance, if you told me you flew to my house on a bird my response wouldnt be to ask you to prove it because I dont believe it. See?

Uh no, I wont talk about men not being truely happy unless they are married because once again, men and women arent the same. Men dont have babies and women dont pee standing up. You are stuck on men and women being the same and you KNOW its not the truth but you're so invested in the myth you refuse to give an inch.

 

[ClosedCaption]

And all I can wonder now is - who was she. I can see how badly she burned you. I would love to know the specifics.

Why because my opinion is different than your girlfriends? Its so strange to hear a guy advice or opinion who isnt interested in having sex with you. See, when a guy isnt afraid of what you can or will do to them they hear things they arent used too and it bothers them. So they pretend its not real or the result of trauma.

You'd like me to say some stuff like Women and men are the same OR Women are superior because they bring life into this world. You know, the typical stuff.

You'll have to excuse me. I guess I wasn't paying enough attention. I was under the impression you were intelligent. Maybe your avatar is misleading, who knows.

Any rate - I don't bother with people on this board who aren't at least somewhere in the realm of levelheaded and well-informed.

Insulting, nice

 

[Iceman]

Bullshit.

Oh look - more bullshit.

And yet more bullshit.

Why? Because you have yet to apply the same standard to men.

C'mon BDboop...I know you have better than to just say "bullshit". Sorry BD but you wont get me off topic about what standard I hold men too simply because I've never expressed it so you couldnt know.

See you say bullshit but purposefully neglect to say how except saying I'm a hypocrite based on nothing I've ever said.

I actually love this topic. Me and my wife *gasp* have this convo from time to time. I'd love to discuss the finer points but the problem is that women either dont want to hear it (Like saying bullshit when you did in fact call me a dick, change want a man to supposed to want a man, and adding some strange thing about applying "it" to men) or they rely on another man or woman who just so happens to share the same opinion as them.

I AM a woman who prefers the single life. My best friend is the same. My best cyber friend as well. We are between 55 and 62.

We also have friends in miserable marriages. You really think any marriage is better than no marriage at all? Really??

And as long as you're claiming it's just some wild coincidence that you haven't mentioned men yet, why don't you chat a bit about that. Because obviously goose-gander, and etc.

Single mom, "cyber best friend", between 55-62 years old

Interesting...

 

[manonfire]

Women releases oxytin when in a relationship - it makes them more happy.

 

[ClosedCaption]

Let me also say I like BDboop and the only reason I haven't gone all in on her. Shes smart and its disappointing that shes doing the typical girl thing. Deny everything and insult everyone. Not unusual just disappointing.

I'd suggest NOT making this about what BDboop prefers and make it about men and women in general like I've been doing. But in order to be offended BD HAS to make it about her personally (I prefer being single) and then take jabs like "what was her name?"

Anything to get away from the facts that I'm presenting. No problem, Theres no love lost and its expected. The only advice women like is the advice they already believe....So they'll listen to the Oprahs and the Dr Phils etc. But medicine doesn't taste good.

 

[Uncensored2008]

I'm married to music and quite happy that way. And for some reason unknown to me, some females do not seem to mind being the "other woman" in my life.

We all hope that you and hip-hop will be very happy together....

 

[Indofred]

Thanks, Fred. I just woke up, haven't had breakfast - so when your post nauseated me, I was safe.

I really should quote it for posterity's sake, but then I'd have to fumigate the desktop.

I'm so sorry, I believe it's a husband's duty to do the best he can for his wife.

Really, if you don't like that, you're dafter than I thought.

 

[Gracie]

women are weak she needs husband because she afraid from cockroachs and only husbands could kill those

Maybe in Pakistan, but here? We would kick the cockroaches ass then the husband for not keeping the house clean.

 

[ClosedCaption]

*sigh*

 

[Uncensored2008]

women are weak she needs husband because she afraid from cockroachs and only husbands could kill those

Maybe in Pakistan, but here? We would kick the cockroaches ass then the husband for not keeping the house clean.

We get these massive cockroaches, about 3 to 4 inches in length. They rarely come in the house, but when they do, it's always through the drains. I defy you to show me ANY woman who would not scream with one of these beasties crawling up through the shower grate.

Last time, my wife refused to go back in the bathroom until I produced a cockroach corpse.