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Although, this does bring up another question..................
What exactly do you consider "marital fidelity"?
I used to have a friend of mine and he and his wife were "swingers". They both loved each other very much and had been married for a long time, but, when he was in the military, he ended up getting hurt and became impotent and couldn't have sex anymore. She still had a pretty healthy sex drive, so when they went out, she would look around to see what guys she was interested in having a physical relation with. She would go and flirt with the guy, he would come by after they started talking and they would ask the guy if he would like to have sex with her while the husband watched. So, because it was agreed to by both people in the marriage, and she never picked up on married guys, they looked at it as an extension of their sex life and not being unfaithful.
I also know how I felt when I was married. I was in the Navy, and had to deploy on a regular basis. I told my wife that I would be more upset with her if I came home to find out she had been going out for coffee with a guy on a weekly basis and shared her hopes, dreams and fears with him and kept them from me, than if I came home and found out she'd gone and had a physical affair because she was horny.
So, I just gave 2 very different examples of what some would or wouldn't consider cheating.
Although, this does bring up another question..................
What exactly do you consider "marital fidelity"?
???? Seriously? Did you miss the very first sentence in the OP?
For this thread purpose, marital fidelity means "strict adherence to whatever it be that parties to a marriage vowed to do and no do."
For this thread's purpose "forsake all others" means exactly what it's meant for millennia. It means to refrain from engaging in sexual acts with anyone other than their spouse.
By all means, create your own thread to ask people that question. This thread has a working definition of "marital fidelity."