As I said, it's a political statement. Telling people they have sex with men has zero to do with defending their country, which is their job in the military. But as you say they need to tell to make the political statement. And on the flip side, if you tell people in other jobs you sleep with men, you don't then shower and sleep with them. Keep your politics out of the military.
Discharging people for the consenting adult they have relations with has nothing to do with serving their country and yet that is what occurs under DADT. It is a FACT that you don't have to tell to be discharged under DADT. You can be discharged if someone else "tells" for you. It is not a political statement for gays and lesbians who serve to want to serve under the
exact same rules and regulations that heterosexuals serve under.
I'll give you a scenario...
SCENE: Motopool on a Monday morning.
Soldier asks heterosexual soldier..."What did you do this weekend?"
Heterosexual Soldier: "I got a little poontang from that hot waitress at the E-Club"
Now, let's change the players.
Soldier asks gay soldier..."What did you do this weekend?"
Gay Soldier: "I picked out a new sofa with my partner Brad"
Which soldier would get a discharge with DADT in place?