Delta4Embassy
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Just for the record, the 'no physical injuries' thing.....It is often the case that an emotional injury is worse than a physical injury, and very often everlasting. I know of a case where a woman was molested by a step parent. When she became a parent, due to her emotional damage, she had many problems with her personal well being and self esteem; she inflicted on her children a great deal of emotional damage because of that, to the point that one of them ended up being a rapist, raping women his mother's age. Rape is not about sex, it's about power, and his mother's emotional manipulations, due to her being sexually abused as a child, led to her son's feeling of powerlessness.No they didn't.I agree with much of what you posted here, however, to be honest, I believe that it's the family's perogative to handle these delicate situations how they see fit.Child sexual abuse exists in every community. Unfortunately, it seems to do better and be gotten away with more, in religious communities. Presumedly because smaller ultra religious groups tend to avoid society not part of the group (as here, Duggars belonging to a cult called Quiverfull.) So abuse goes unchecked and unreported more than gets reported.
Sounds like the 'mentor' and even the State Trooper musta been members and much as the Catholics do transferring abusive priests around, the Quiverfull cult handles these issues by sending victims and abusers to other members in key positions. Then should anyone ask, they 'addressed' the problem. Like the FLDS group in Colorado City who literally operate the entire town including the police force. So when abuse happens there (which it does,) 'reporting' the abuse is just informing fellow cult members of SOP.
CSA occurs in the Jewish community as well, as well as in the Amish community. It's everywhere and the more isolationist a group is, the more likely it becomes there's abuse that isn't getting reported outside the group.
Nothing good happens in secret.
Particularly if it all occurred w/i the family.
Unfortunately, kids often do bad things, sometimes even terrible, I hope that Duggar guy has learned from and not made a life of such things.
With that said, the Duggars should NEVER have come out so harshly against gays and making the claims they have about "protecting children" and all that other stuff KNOWING full-well the past they have. People that live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. So for the simple fact that they engaged in such harsh and awful political mixed w/religious rhetoric they should bare the consequences of public shame and scrutiny and even ostrazitation.
The victims weren't just family. The parents and the church had a responsibility to the community to report the abuse to the proper authorities.
No one was physically injured or killed.
These are sensitive manners and the family has moral discretion to handle this as they see fit.
You must come from a perfect family if you do not understand this.
The point is that emotional abuse, which child molestation really is, may cause injuries that never go away and can cause behavior that is abusive to others throughout one's life. It's far more devastating than a bruise or black eye. I'm not saying physical abuse of children is okay, not by any means. I'm saying emotional abuse is most likely just as serious and just as damaging.
Absolutely right. Emotional abuse is FAR more devastating than physical abuse as evidenced by interrogation methods. Physical torture no matter how barbaric hits a diminishing point of return as the mind starts to block out the pain. But emotional torture quite simply works. Assaulting the mind directly, instead of the body, skips all the mind's defense mechanisms and results in traumas which last the rest of the subject's life.
The betrayl of trust by a parent, sibling, or relative when they sexually abuse their family members lasts lifelong. You can never repair that damage, just help people learn to move on from it. But it's always going to be there in the back of their minds easily summoned back to the fore of thought when ever a triggering event occurs.