Then you should support the Respect for Marriage Act which I described earlier because, what it basically does is repeal the so called Defense of Marriage Act and clears the way for the Full Faith and Credit clause to take effect with respect to gay marriage.
After all of this, I am not clear as to where you stand on gay marriage. Are you just a wannabee legal wonk who supports it but just wants it to happen in what you consider the "right way"? Or it this your way of trying to undermine gay marriage without admitting that you are against it?
So, the problem with making anything a law is that laws mean it can be regulated. What one hand giveth, one taketh away.
An example of why I wouldn't want to see gay marriage codified into law is because you'd see religious freedom destroyed over night. Every liberal gay person with an axe to grind would be going into bakeries and other businesses across the country,.or they would be applying to church leadership positions, knowing that for religious reasons, they couldn't grant these people their wishes. Many of them would be legitimate, many others would just be for spite, to see if they could get a lawsuit against then, in an attempt to ruin them.
If someone walks into a kosher deli and requests a ham and bacon sub, if the deli says they can't prepare that kind of food because of their laws, nobody is going to bat an eye at that. Same with a butcher ran by Muslims. Nobody is going to make an issue out of that because people understand. Hey, it's a religious thing...move along. But when it comes to Christian beliefs against gay marriage, we'll now we have to make a big deal over it, because they think it's "hate"! They won't even entertain the religious liberty aspect of it, or maybe they do but just don't care. Some of them are like "we have to GET those Christian people because they don't agree with us, and we're going to force OUR lives onto them!".
For the same reason a kosher deli, or a muslim butcher wont handle foods that biolate their laws are the same reasons christian businesses wont participate in gay weddings.
if you make gay marriage a law, then religious freedom will be gone.
Now,.i know you're going to say "well, businesses and churches shouldn't discriminate". I don't see thus as discrimination. Firstly, you have to get rid of this notion that Christians do these things out of hate. In some cases, sure, that happens, but in others, it's really about their beliefs. Many of these Christians don't hate gay people, they just don't agree with their lifestyle.
If you make a law on it, then it means everyone, regsrdless of their own civil rights, has to abide by it, you open up the possibility for people being sued for breaking the law, and it will likely lead to these people being charged with hate crimes.