No, we do not agree, Emily.
You cannot deny homosexuals the right to marry those consenting adults whom they love
You cannot violate others' civil rights, where CR trumps non-CR beliefs, such as that of a Christian wedding cake baker who offers her product to the public of Colorado. She can get around that by advertising she bakes wedding cakes but does not decorate the product beyond frosting, etc. If she bakes wedding cakes only in her church's kitchens for her church's ceremonies, then she would be fine.
Or she can advertise privately by word of mouth that she will make a Christian wedding cake.
Dear
JakeStarkey
we are WAY talking past each other because that is the opposite of what I believe.
I believe marriage is already protected under religious freedom
and did not require court rulings as if these depend on govt to establish.
Way beyond you on that point.
Where we seem to disagree is how to make our secular govt
system MATCH and EXPRESS and support the marriage equally for all people
WITHOUT causing political or beliefs in conflict.
I believe the push for DOMA and banning gay marriage
made the situation worse by passing equally unconstitutional laws
that had no place either!
I apologize for wherever or whatever I said to give you the
exact OPPOSITE impression and perception of what I believe.
Even the concept of depending on the Supreme Court to rule
is INSULTING to the automatic right someone has to marry as part of religious freedom.
It does not need to be spelled out and established as a separate right or rite.
An inalienable natural right is already that,
so that is not the issue,
JakeStarkey
The issue is how this is written up and implemented through the state
where it does not cause conflicts with other people's beliefs.
I believe we can write the laws better to AVOID these conflicts.
And you are content to take shortcuts, and just assume
the opposition are either bigots, or "bypassing law and govt"
or something that isn't fair. There are certain beliefs and objections
that are valid and CAN be worked around WITHOUT infringing on anyone's equality under law.
Just political laziness, and trying to badmouth the opposition
instead of hearing and understanding where the conflicts are,
resolving them up front, and USING THE SYSTEM THE RIGHT
WAY INSTEAD OF INTRODUCING biases that violate beliefs of others.
It is simpler for you just to paint the objections as wrongful or unlawful
to dismiss them,
which is the mistake people make saying all homosexuality is a choice
of behavior and doesn't count as a protected class.
You make the same mistakes as the people you call bigots,
but please do not mistake me when my objections are different.
I am objecting because there are better ways to word, pass
and implement laws where they avoid these conflicts and don't impose on ANYONE.
So I believe those laws would be even more Constiutionally inclusive
because they would satisfy and resolve all interests and remove all objections.
And yes, I understand to go through the Legal and Legislative process
in order to propose laws. I am NOT saying to bypass govt.
I am saying it is easier to use the govt system properly
if all sides come together, agree how to resolve conflicts,
and how to word and implement laws where they aren't unfair to anyone,
BEFORE going through the legal processes to pass them. Big fat duh.
Sorry I kept giving you the wrong impression.
If your beliefs are so strong that anyone who wants a consensus
is really trying to coerce and bypass the democratic process instead of protect it as I believe,
all I can guess is that the FEAR from "bigots" abusing religious freedom to oppress others
is so great you are projecting that onto me and FEARING that a consensus process
would be abused by such "bigots" to coerce and exclude any opposition from those like you
defending the other side(s).
And my answer would be the same, then that isn't consensus.
If you are still objecting, then the process is already pressured and not by free choice
and participation.
Whatever is causing your continuing fear that this is bypassing Constitutional republican govt,
would have to be addressed or it will mess up the mediation process by injecting fear into it.
The same thing comes up when I mention a conference on political beliefs
to members of Tea Party groups so AFRAID the liberals will hijack the Constitutional convention
to push agenda, they won't agree to any discussions but just want all out secession from govt
unless they get certain ultimatums passed. They don't feel safe with a consensus process
they are too afraid the opponents will hijack to push their own agenda over everyone else!
Whatever fear this is coming from, I find it is mutual.
I guess too many people have abused the political process
to push their party agenda by majority rule, that even bringing up
including both sides in resolving conflicts evokes fears of the
other side dominating and forcing their views until they get their way.
That's not how mediation works. All the areas of emotional pressure being added
to the process are going to have to be addressed if people are going to communicate civilly.
There has to be trust that no decision is going to be enforced
if you don't agree to it. It's not a one way street.
I'm very sorry the political environment and history has pushed everyone
to this level of distrust. I surely hope the consensus building process will
work to bring out these fears to be addressed, so they no longer hamper the process.
What a mess. Thank you for sharing where you are coming from
JakeStarkey and sorry I cannot explain to you without coming across as the opposite.
I scare the Tea Party members who are just as afraid the liberals are
hijacking govt and pushing their own agenda the same way you are saying
I come across as wanting to do that.
Sorry but that is not what I mean. I understand the fears are greater
and even if my intent is not to derail the system, I think you are saying
other people with onesided intent WOULD abuse the consensus process
to push their agenda and exclude minority views from equal representation.
So even if that isn't my intent, I think you are saying it would happen anyway.
And I am naive for thinking we can resolve conflicts if the opposition isn't interested
and only want to push their beliefs on everyone else. I can only express to you
JakeStarkey that is how you and others come across who aren't hearing the other side.
I don't think it is fair to blacklist and blackball me from defending my views in isonomy
and consensus just because of the people who would abuse that to push their "bigotry."
I guess you are saying that the bigotry against homosexual couples and marriage is so great,
that it takes using extra measures such as court rulings and state laws to protect that.
And it isn't enough to say you are already protected under religious freedom.
And that is why the push for gay marriage to be protected under the state is
argued as legally necessary. Because of the mass bigotry by others.
But I would equally argue the bigotry against Christians and the right,
has equally been perpetrated by the left. so the left and right are equally
responsible for this conflict, and can't be blamed on just the right.
So because of the CONFLICTS between liberal and conservative,
this causes a backlash against both the gay rights and the religious beliefs opposed.
How is it fair to blame just the bigots
and claim that gay marriage rights through the state are necessary for protection,
while as many liberals on the left have
rejected and discriminated against spiritual healing
and created this fear of pushing homosexual agenda
and DENIED even seeking to BAN therapy for changing orientation.
So if the discrimination against ex-gays for promoting healing therapy
is just as oppressive and fear-based as bigotry against homosexuality,
why aren't BOTH beliefs being equally protected if the gay rights need special protection?