I agree that American women generally are pretty darn independent and most don't want a man to take care of them. Those who want a permanent relationship usually want one with a soul mate and each sees the other as an equal.
You and/or others might see the Christian teaching of the man being head of the household as being oppressive. In my household, however, that is the way we believe and do it, and believe me, I am in no sense oppressed or subserviant or disadvantaged in any way because of it. The reason is better discussed on a separate thread on that topic, but let's just say that Mr. Foxfyre and I probably have a different perspective on that than how many might see it or describe it.
So the language, metaphors, mindset in a Muslim household might not be anything like what you or I might see from the outside. And this is why I don't wish to condemn it as long as Mr. & Mrs. Sunni are happy with their faith, their marriage, and their household.
As a non-religious person (at best and on better days, I find myself sort of believing there is a god), I am all for anyone following the religion of their choice.
I am not for any religion wanting to legislate their views.
That goes for fundy Christians, fundy Jews, and certainly fundy Muslims. It is no secret that Sunni wants the west to adopt Sharia.
So, I expose his (and others') oppressive views as much as I can.