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Not all who wander are lost
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My experience was more 99.5% pure joy; .5% working through things. The twos were a lark; teenagers are great kids the greatest percentage of the time. We now live in three different states, and are in touch almost daily, they being the ones that initiate contact. When we get together, hiking, cruising, skiing, paddle boarding, etc. Depending on what genes I inherited, I might be like the part of the family that are living on their own well into their nineties; or, I'll be in memory care. Hope it is the former while preparing the latter. I have great kids, the kind where there was no need to lock up the liquor and who forgave my mistakes. Never had to be the "cool" mom--just Mom.Plus having kids is 99% suck and 1% pure joy. Think about the terrible 2's. Think about the teenage years.
I will note that I had six little brothers and sisters, then nieces and nephews. I was always around children of various ages which may be why I found it easy, and I found being a mom was even better than being the big sister or the aunt. And by the way, my aunt had the relationship with us, you describe with your own nephews. As I noted before, in the end she was grieving over never having her own kids, and there was nothing we could do but to be with her--which we all were to the end, and then after as well. Though not Greek, we were plenty Irish, who are also known to be tight families. Even those of us who couldn't drink were embraced by those who could.