Relationship Discussions Thread

[GotZoom]

So you're telling me you're unattached? :huh:

I understand your thinking. And it's quite romantic, I might add. But you know, everything comes to an end. Everything. My advice. Choose someone you love enough & is strong enough to go thru all this shit with you. Not someone you can't "live without".

Had a practice wife.

Married now to "the one" for 10 years (this July)

 

[Joz]

Had a practice wife.

Married now to "the one" for 10 years (this July)

Nowadays that's quite a milestone. Congrats!

 

[GotZoom]

Nowadays that's quite a milestone. Congrats!

But if I wasn't........well, you know.

 

[Joz]

If your spouse suddenly gains 100lbs of fat, would you still find them attractive?

Well, apparently no one else is going to bite on this topic so here's something.

Any message board.
We meet here, we talk & sometimes flirt. We exchage ideas & views & problems & joys & concerns.....we exchange our lives.

Alot of us are in relationships, be it, some not as healthy as they should be. People can be anything they want on a board, on the phone. Hell, people can be different in real life; example: Scott Peterson. But we get a mental picture of someone, their personality, & fantasizing can follow. How far should it be taken?

 

[dilloduck]

Well, apparently no one else is going to bite on this topic so here's something.

Any message board.
We meet here, we talk & sometimes flirt. We exchage ideas & views & problems & joys & concerns.....we exchange our lives.

Alot of us are in relationships, be it, some not as healthy as they should be. People can be anything they want on a board, on the phone. Hell, people can be different in real life; example: Scott Peterson. But we get a mental picture of someone, their personality, & fantasizing can follow. How far should it be taken?

As far as both people agree.

 

[GotZoom]

Well, apparently no one else is going to bite on this topic so here's something.

Any message board.
We meet here, we talk & sometimes flirt. We exchage ideas & views & problems & joys & concerns.....we exchange our lives.

Alot of us are in relationships, be it, some not as healthy as they should be. People can be anything they want on a board, on the phone. Hell, people can be different in real life; example: Scott Peterson. But we get a mental picture of someone, their personality, & fantasizing can follow. How far should it be taken?

Excellent question.

Some might use the "consenting adults" reasoning. Others might say that there shouldn't be anything like what you described. Teasing and flirting is a bad thing. Others would disagree and say it is a healthy part of life.

I think that regardless of what people do, they should know what they are getting into. And really get to know the person they are talking to. Once that comfort level has been attained, then the conversation can be had.

Just my .02.

 

[dilloduck]

Excellent question.

Some might use the "consenting adults" reasoning. Others might say that there shouldn't be anything like what you described. Teasing and flirting is a bad thing. Others would disagree and say it is a healthy part of life.

I think that regardless of what people do, they should know what they are getting into. And really get to know the person they are talking to. Once that comfort level has been attained, then the conversation can be had.

Just my .02.

Isn't conversation the only way that your going to get to know the other person?

 

[GotZoom]

Isn't conversation the only way that your going to get to know the other person?

Conversation is the best way to get to know someone.

Do you put limits on those conversations though?

 

[dilloduck]

Conversation is the best way to get to know someone.

Do you put limits on those conversations though?

depends on your curiosity level--guess either person could shut it down anytime they got too uncomfortable to carry it any further.

 

[5stringJeff]

Any message board.
We meet here, we talk & sometimes flirt. We exchage ideas & views & problems & joys & concerns.....we exchange our lives.

Alot of us are in relationships, be it, some not as healthy as they should be. People can be anything they want on a board, on the phone. Hell, people can be different in real life; example: Scott Peterson. But we get a mental picture of someone, their personality, & fantasizing can follow. How far should it be taken?

I'll go as far as I feel comfortable going. But I'm not going to talk about some stuff on here, just for the simple fact that it's my business, and no one else's. But that's no different than people's friends IRL.

 

[Joz]

Excellent question....
Some might use the "consenting adults" reasoning. Others might say that there shouldn't be anything like what you described. Teasing and flirting is a bad thing. Others would disagree and say it is a healthy part of life....
I think that regardless of what people do, they should know what they are getting into.....

Teasing & flirting is always good. It's fun, boosts the ego, should be harmless. We are all tempted,; some maybe just once. But there's the person that just happens into your life that takes your breath away. You seem to have so much more in common than you do with your spouse/partner. What about committment? We wouldn't do it in person? Is it harmless on a message board?

 

[dilloduck]

Teasing & flirting is always good. It's fun, boosts the ego, should be harmless. We are all tempted,; some maybe just once. But there's the person that just happens into your life that takes your breath away. You seem to have so much more in common than you do with your spouse/partner. What about committment? We wouldn't do it in person? Is it harmless on a message board?

You are the only one who knows what your set of morals and values are--listen to them.

 

[GotZoom]

Teasing & flirting is always good. It's fun, boosts the ego, should be harmless. We are all tempted,; some maybe just once. But there's the person that just happens into your life that takes your breath away. You seem to have so much more in common than you do with your spouse/partner. What about committment? We wouldn't do it in person? Is it harmless on a message board?

I will refer back to what has been posted above. I think that there are instances where someone finds someone who you have a lot in common with. It is rare - sometimes it even happens in almost an instant; other times it has to grow (co-worker, etc).

I think when you find someone who you have that connection with, you need to keep them, at a minimum, as a dear friend. People like that are very hard to find - and when you do, you shouldn't lose them.

Do something in person? Harmless on a message board? Again, I think it is up to the two people. Everybody is different.

 

[Joz]

I will refer back to what has been posted above. I think that there are instances where someone finds someone who you have a lot in common with. It is rare - sometimes it even happens in almost an instant; other times it has to grow (co-worker, etc).
I think when you find someone who you have that connection with, you need to keep them, at a minimum, as a dear friend. People like that are very hard to find - and when you do, you shouldn't lose them.
Do something in person? Harmless on a message board? Again, I think it is up to the two people. Everybody is different.

I've made some real good friends here, both male & female. There are always some you click with better than others. It's funny how that happens over a board. BUT that's also why you have to be even MORE careful. These realtionships can be fun. But, I believe that cheating can also occur in this form. I'd be VERY careful.

 

[dilloduck]

I've made some real good friends here, both male & female. There are always some you click with better than others. It's funny how that happens over a board. BUT that's also why you have to be even MORE careful. These realtionships can be fun. But, I believe that cheating can also occur in this form. I'd be VERY careful.

Answered you own question , Joz?

 

[Joz]

Answered you own question , Joz?

Yep, guess I did. But this is MY answer. It may not be YOURS. I guess I just wondered if I was alone in this line of thinking?

 

[manu1959]

Had a practice wife.

Married now to "the one" for 10 years (this July)

i call em starter wives.....like starter homes....you trade up

 

[dilloduck]

Yep, guess I did. But this is MY answer. It may not be YOURS. I guess I just wondered if I was alone in this line of thinking?

Nope--I think that the energy one spends here should not be used at the expense of loved ones at home.

 

[GotZoom]

Answered you own question , Joz?

It would appear that she did.

 

[GotZoom]

Nope--I think that the energy one spends here should not be used at the expense of loved ones at home.

Definitely agree. Nothing worse than the "family" being home and mom/dad sitting in front of the computer for hours chatting with other people.

Kids, spouse, all of the above, deserve the attention the computer is getting.

Perhaps if more people spent that time at home with their family instead of in front of the computer, relationships would be better off,...

and the world would be a better place.

(I had to throw that in. I like puppies and whirled peas too).