So pretty speeches absolve the deaths of over a half a million Americans?
That's not even the whole problem.
Honoring Lee has buttressed the idea there was something to the Civil War. That it was okay to think Secession and Slavery are valid. To this day, Southerns talk about the South rising again. The whole conservative movement in the country constantly yammers on about "State's Rights".
Sooner rather than later this country to should an end to the notion that Lee was an admirable character.
He wasn't.
He was a despicable villain.
A villian would have called for uprising, and a continued fight, he didnt.
Lincoln wanted a full reconcilliation, with the nation put back together as quickly as possible. His death prevented that, and one wonders how much better off we would have been if he hadn't gone to the theatre that night.