On the Road Again

[Care4all]

On my way back home to Maine.....from Florida.

We left this afternoon and we are now in Santee South Carolina.

We've been in FL since the beginning of Dec cuz my mom died....15 days later my dad died...it has been a very sorrowful time. My parents left their house to me...we're keeping both homes and Maine will be our summer home, spring, summer, fall home and Florida home our winter home...unless we decide to make Florida our primary residence and become Floridians again...we are still in shock from the deaths of both my parents...and just haven't decided yet...plus their estate has not been settled yet...that will give us a better idea on what to do....can we even afford to keep both?

 

[TroglocratsRdumb]

On my way back home to Maine.....from Florida.

We left this afternoon and we are now in Santee South Carolina.

We've been in FL since the beginning of Dec cuz my mom died....20 days later my dad died...it has been a very sorrowful time. My parents left their house to me...we're keeping both homes and Maine will be our summer home, spring, summer, fall home and Florida home our winter home...unless we decide to make Florida our primary residence and become Floridians again...we are still in shock from the deaths of both my parents...and just haven't decided yet...plus their estate has not been settled yet...that will give us a better idea on what to do....can we even afford to keep both?

My condolences Care4all

 

[HikerGuy83]

On my way back home to Maine.....from Florida.

We left this afternoon and we are now in Santee South Carolina.

We've been in FL since the beginning of Dec cuz my mom died....20 days later my dad died...it has been a very sorrowful time. My parents left their house to me...we're keeping both homes and Maine will be our summer home, spring, summer, fall home and Florida home our winter home...unless we decide to make Florida our primary residence and become Floridians again...we are still in shock from the deaths of both my parents...and just haven't decided yet...plus their estate has not been settled yet...that will give us a better idea on what to do....can we even afford to keep both?

Time takes away the sting.

But it still stings.

All the best.

 

[Carl in Michigan]

We've been in FL since the beginning of Dec cuz my mom died....20 days later my dad died.

How long were they married? They must have been happy

 

[shockedcanadian]

On my way back home to Maine.....from Florida.

We left this afternoon and we are now in Santee South Carolina.

We've been in FL since the beginning of Dec cuz my mom died....20 days later my dad died...it has been a very sorrowful time. My parents left their house to me...we're keeping both homes and Maine will be our summer home, spring, summer, fall home and Florida home our winter home...unless we decide to make Florida our primary residence and become Floridians again...we are still in shock from the deaths of both my parents...and just haven't decided yet...plus their estate has not been settled yet...that will give us a better idea on what to do....can we even afford to keep both?

Sorry for your loss.

 

[Care4all]

How long were they married? They must have been happy..

They were married 71 years and 9 months....Dad just didn't want to
go on without mom and he gave up fighting his own ailments that came with being in his 90s....my older sister who lives down the street from them, is Trustee of their estate and she has been disheveled, ditzy headed from losing them both at once and is way behind on handling their Trust....hubby and I finally decided we had to get back home to Maine and will come back down in November.....

 

[Carl in Michigan]

They were married 71 years and 9 months....Dad just didn't want to
go on without mom and he gave up fighting his own ailments that came with being in his 90s....my

I can see that. They were blessed.

 

[DGS49]

I hope you can still treasure the time you had with your parents. Many of us never get to know our parents as adults, leaving many elements of the relationship "untidy." (My mother died when I was 18).

As for the Florida-Maine thing, consider that Florida in Summer kinda sucks. If at all possible, I would live in both places, even if you have to rent in one or the other.

While there are a LOT of wonderful communities in Florida, I am partial to the Villages. One of the best things about Florida is that you can find a home at almost any budget. Even in the Villages, there are communities of manufactured homes that can be had for around $175k.

 

[Chuz Life]

On my way back home to Maine.....from Florida.

We left this afternoon and we are now in Santee South Carolina.

We've been in FL since the beginning of Dec cuz my mom died....15 days later my dad died...it has been a very sorrowful time. My parents left their house to me...we're keeping both homes and Maine will be our summer home, spring, summer, fall home and Florida home our winter home...unless we decide to make Florida our primary residence and become Floridians again...we are still in shock from the deaths of both my parents...and just haven't decided yet...plus their estate has not been settled yet...that will give us a better idea on what to do....can we even afford to keep both?

I know I've shared this before, but my mother passed away when I was 18 months old. My brother was only 9 days old. I can only imagine the way things might have been different if we had our parents together through our whole childhoods. You were fortunate to have that alone.

And they gave you a house. Wow. I can't imagine that either. You were twice blessed or more.

Some of my family have tried the two-home thing with one home in Florida and the other in the North. They all seem to drop one for the other after a few years. It seems to take a lot of effort to maintain.

I can't imagine my daughter having to go through all of my things when we are gone. Especially while living in another State.

 

[Old Rocks]

On my way back home to Maine.....from Florida.

We left this afternoon and we are now in Santee South Carolina.

We've been in FL since the beginning of Dec cuz my mom died....15 days later my dad died...it has been a very sorrowful time. My parents left their house to me...we're keeping both homes and Maine will be our summer home, spring, summer, fall home and Florida home our winter home...unless we decide to make Florida our primary residence and become Floridians again...we are still in shock from the deaths of both my parents...and just haven't decided yet...plus their estate has not been settled yet...that will give us a better idea on what to do....can we even afford to keep both?

So sorry to hear about your parents. It has been some time since my parents died, but there is still a hole in my life that they used to fill. The loss becomes less immediate, but is always still there.

 

[Care4all]

I know I've shared this before, but my mother passed away when I was 18 months old. My brother was only 9 days old. I can only imagine the way things might have been different if we had our parents together through our whole childhoods. You were fortunate to have that alone.

And they gave you a house. Wow. I can't imagine that either. You were twice blessed or more.

Some of my family have tried the two-home thing with one home in Florida and the other in the North. They all seem to drop one for the other after a few years. It seems to take a lot of effort to maintain.

I can't imagine my daughter having to go through all of my things when we are gone. Especially while living in another State.

I was fortunate that my parents decided a few years ago....in 2022 that they did not need their big house anymore and downsized in to a smaller home they had built down a bit across the street....the hubby and I helped them downsize and went through their things as we helped them pack....and mom and dad were alive when having to depart with their own things with memories....the smaller home was half the size of their bigger home so an awful lot had to be given away or ditched, they had a lot of culling to do.

So, this smaller home which hubby and I think is big to us, 1400+sq ft, is what I inherited, filled with all the meaningful things they kept from their downsizing so I really didn't need to go through a lot, that was already done. It's the 70 years of paperwork, searching for anything important, bank accounts, investments etc etc that has been carried from place to place as they moved many times....Dad was USAF for 22 yrs when young so we moved a lot when my sis and I were kids.

 

[Harry Dresden]

On my way back home to Maine.....from Florida.

We left this afternoon and we are now in Santee South Carolina.

We've been in FL since the beginning of Dec cuz my mom died....15 days later my dad died...it has been a very sorrowful time. My parents left their house to me...we're keeping both homes and Maine will be our summer home, spring, summer, fall home and Florida home our winter home...unless we decide to make Florida our primary residence and become Floridians again...we are still in shock from the deaths of both my parents...and just haven't decided yet...plus their estate has not been settled yet...that will give us a better idea on what to do....can we even afford to keep both?

i know the feeling care my parents died in the same week 3 days apart....hang in there and take care........

 

[j-mac]

On my way back home to Maine.....from Florida.

We left this afternoon and we are now in Santee South Carolina.

We've been in FL since the beginning of Dec cuz my mom died....15 days later my dad died...it has been a very sorrowful time. My parents left their house to me...we're keeping both homes and Maine will be our summer home, spring, summer, fall home and Florida home our winter home...unless we decide to make Florida our primary residence and become Floridians again...we are still in shock from the deaths of both my parents...and just haven't decided yet...plus their estate has not been settled yet...that will give us a better idea on what to do....can we even afford to keep both?

Sorry to hear that C4…

 

[gipper]

On my way back home to Maine.....from Florida.

We left this afternoon and we are now in Santee South Carolina.

We've been in FL since the beginning of Dec cuz my mom died....15 days later my dad died...it has been a very sorrowful time. My parents left their house to me...we're keeping both homes and Maine will be our summer home, spring, summer, fall home and Florida home our winter home...unless we decide to make Florida our primary residence and become Floridians again...we are still in shock from the deaths of both my parents...and just haven't decided yet...plus their estate has not been settled yet...that will give us a better idea on what to do....can we even afford to keep both?

Sorry for your loss. Losing one parent is tough. Losing both at the same time is much worse. However, you should be thankful you had them in your life for a long time and now they’re in a much better place waiting for you.

 

[initforme]

On my way back home to Maine.....from Florida.

We left this afternoon and we are now in Santee South Carolina.

We've been in FL since the beginning of Dec cuz my mom died....15 days later my dad died...it has been a very sorrowful time. My parents left their house to me...we're keeping both homes and Maine will be our summer home, spring, summer, fall home and Florida home our winter home...unless we decide to make Florida our primary residence and become Floridians again...we are still in shock from the deaths of both my parents...and just haven't decided yet...plus their estate has not been settled yet...that will give us a better idea on what to do....can we even afford to keep both?

Id take Maine over Florida...

 

[bdtex]

We've been in FL since the beginning of Dec cuz my mom died....15 days later my dad died...it has been a very sorrowful time.

My mother died 7/19/2024, father died 3/1/2025. Can't imagine parents dying 15 days apart. Takes awhile to get used both being gone. Some days are still harder than others. Bless you.

 

[Care4all]

Id take Maine over Florida...

I want to so much! I have deer that I feed that are my friends! and have named them and they come when I call them!

My hubby was born and bred in Tampa so he's leaning in for Florida....

 

[Lumpy 1]

On my way back home to Maine.....from Florida.

We left this afternoon and we are now in Santee South Carolina.

We've been in FL since the beginning of Dec cuz my mom died....15 days later my dad died...it has been a very sorrowful time. My parents left their house to me...we're keeping both homes and Maine will be our summer home, spring, summer, fall home and Florida home our winter home...unless we decide to make Florida our primary residence and become Floridians again...we are still in shock from the deaths of both my parents...and just haven't decided yet...plus their estate has not been settled yet...that will give us a better idea on what to do....can we even afford to keep both?

Sorry for your sadness darlin .. maybe their smiling, I always tend to believe so ..

It looks like you'll have time to make the right decisions and it helps that you're so bright and all .. hugs from a friend..
.

 

[Natural Citizen]

Gosh. I didn't know that your dad had passed, too. I remember you mentioning you were heading down when your mom passed, though.

I'm sorry to read that. It sounds like they lived a long, loving life together, though. That's a long time to be married. Seems like that is so often how the ones who have been together for so long pass.
One not long after the other.

Safe travels, C4all...

 

[Blaster]

I want to so much! I have deer that I feed that are my friends! and have named them and they come when I call them!

My hubby was born and bred in Tampa so he's leaning in for Florida....

My brother lives in Venice, Florida.