On attracting men

[Leo123]

It's always better when you grow the herbs yourself.....just saying.....and I AM a chef.

I grow herbs and can be found in my herb garden clipping before making dinner a lot of the time. There is nothing like fresh herbs.

 

[OhPleaseJustQuit]

It's always better when you grow the herbs yourself.....just saying.....and I AM a chef.

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I knew a guy who'd wait for the herbs to show up at the Pike Place Market, and then make huge batches and freeze it. YUMMMMM!!!

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[Rawley]

Wow that's bad news for me because I hate cooking and this is assuming I even know how to cook in the first place.

How important is food to guys? Serious question.

Pretty important

 

[westwall]

That's generally true but I think that the consensus here is that a woman also has to know basic stuff in the kitchen. In other words, no man can tolerate a woman who doesn't cook, doesn't matter how cute she looks in a skirt.

Not tolerate is far too harsh. A real man likes a woman who can cook.

But it's not essential.

What is essential is loyalty, intelligence (in my case, I desire deep conversations) productivity, either running the home, or having a good job.

Everything is a trade off. My wife is pretty, but not as pretty as some of the women I dated. I chose her because her other qualities more than compensated for the lesser attractiveness.

She's also not bitchy. If we have a disagreement we talk it out. We always respect each other.

That is critical.

 

[MayorQuimby]

Not tolerate is far too harsh. A real man likes a woman who can cook.

But it's not essential.

What is essential is loyalty, intelligence (in my case, I desire deep conversations) productivity, either running the home, or having a good job.

Everything is a trade off. My wife is pretty, but not as pretty as some of the women I dated. I chose her because her other qualities more than compensated for the lesser attractiveness.

She's also not bitchy. If we have a disagreement we talk it out. We always respect each other.

That is critical.

That is actually what I have heard, too.

Well personally, I really don't have too much to offer, but I think I might have something that's quite attractive to a lot of guys, and that is I am very emotionally supportive. Like if the guy I like is hurting, I will drop everything and rush to his side, to comfort him. "To be there for him through thick and thin" is the unspoken motto I live by.

 

[JohnDB]

That is actually what I have heard, too.

Well personally, I really don't have too much to offer, but I think I might have something that's quite attractive to a lot of guys, and that is I am very emotionally supportive. Like if the guy I like is hurting, I will drop everything and rush to his side, to comfort him. "To be there for him through thick and thin" is the unspoken motto I live by.

Not really helpful....
Learn to cook.

We guys have three emotions. Laughter, anger, and confused.

If we get angry we smash like hulk so we can laugh at it....if it doesn't smash we are confused...(joke)

Those are the customary emotions guys will express even if we have all the other emotions that women will express. We don't need or ask for help with processing those emotions and will go to extreme lengths to not express any emotions other than those.

Emotions for guys are much more complicated than women's emotions due to the masking. Women may have more....but that's got nothing on men.

 

[Carl in Michigan]

I just can't see Robert Redford being rejected when he was 25 years old. HOT!

I'm not Robert Redford

 

[Carl in Michigan]

Not tolerate is far too harsh. A real man likes a woman who can cook.

But it's not essential.

What is essential is loyalty, intelligence (in my case, I desire deep conversations) productivity, either running the home, or having a good job.

Everything is a trade off. My wife is pretty, but not as pretty as some of the women I dated. I chose her because her other qualities more than compensated for the lesser attractiveness.

She's also not bitchy. If we have a disagreement we talk it out. We always respect each other.

That is critical.

A good woman gives a man PEACE, NOT DRAMA. Women tend to want drama. Men value their peace

 

[Carl in Michigan]

Wow that's bad news for me because I hate cooking and this is assuming I even know how to cook in the first place.

How important is food to guys? Serious question.

I'm happy with simple stuff. I kinda like the same things every day

 

[JohnDB]

 

[Leo123]

Honestly, I would be so lucky, if I could find a guy who both meets my aesthetics and who also enjoys cooking.

I am actually not lazy, I am just really brain-dead when it comes to kitchen stuff. If my guy is willing to give me step-by-step instructions, like, "marinate this, peel that, and then grill them together", I can and will happily follow instructions. I just need someone to tell me what to do, you know, and I will do it happily.

In fact, I think that a lot of domestic bliss is found when the man and woman are cooking together in the kitchen. Imagine the fun they can have together, the laughter they can share, and the afterwards they will eat the dish they created together. Honestly if I could have this, I really would not ask for much else.

I usually really don't want or need help. For me, cooking is akin to meditation. I focus on how to prepare, when to cook, coordinate when everything is done along with being aware of seasonings, etc. The last thing I need is someone disturbing me. Yes my wife helps a bit but it's not her thing really. She appreciates what I make and has great input. It's hard to be totally objective about your own cooking.

 

[Deplorable Yankee]

What can a woman do, if the man she likes won't ask her out? I am certainly not gonna go up to a guy and ask him out.

And I can really see it happening, as the sort of men I like are very, very good-looking. These men have options, and even though I am somewhat attractive, I am really very very far from a 10. I can really see these men just sitting back and seeing me as just one among the many that I am sure just doorstep them.

How old are you?

A lot of younger white civilized men are scared to approach women because well they'll get accused of something they're not guilty of... he may want to ask you out but he was too scared

They can't win today girls crying that they're either being creeped on or no men will talk to them
Are you good looking Young guys love crazy b******


Can ya cook ..do dishes?

Approach him as a friend first thd romance could follow

 

[mex tex]

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I know her!

 

[mex tex]

Mayor Quimby, Do you have tattoos?

 

[MayorQuimby]

Mayor Quimby, Do you have tattoos?

No.

Is that a good thing?

 

[MayorQuimby]

I usually really don't want or need help. For me, cooking is akin to meditation. I focus on how to prepare, when to cook, coordinate when everything is done along with being aware of seasonings, etc. The last thing I need is someone disturbing me. Yes my wife helps a bit but it's not her thing really. She appreciates what I make and has great input. It's hard to be totally objective about your own cooking.

It's really really interesting how different people are.

 

[MayorQuimby]

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She actually has a really cute face. Too bad she's a whore.

 

[JohnDB]

She actually has a really cute face. Too bad she's a whore.

But she says she is ready for marriage now....

And that's the problem. Slots and whores don't have neon signs flashing their identities. Many a young man has been fooled because of the lack of tags.

 

[MayorQuimby]

I'm happy with simple stuff. I kinda like the same things every day

Actually, I think I am the same way.

I really think that cooking would not be so bad, if the man 1. is happy with food that is only so so tasting; and 2. does not mind that it's pretty much the same food everyday. I can't really cook gourmet food, and I find it hard to have to come up with new creations everyday. If all I have to do is the same 3, 4 items day in, day out, I actually wouldn't mind spending some time in the kitchen daily.

 

[MayorQuimby]

But she says she is ready for marriage now....

And that's the problem. Slots and whores don't have neon signs flashing their identities. Many a young man has been fooled because of the lack of tags.

But this young lady has like 3 kids though. That's a pretty big red flag I think.