Obese people know they are obese..and they know its unhealthy. THey dont need people throwing it in their faces that they need to lose weight. Trust me, they know. Its not just a physical thing..its a mental thing too. Are there some people that just eat bad food and dont care? Yes, of course. BUt in this day and age there are the majority who would love to be skinny. Its not as easy as most may think to lose 200+ pounds. Sure, eat healthy and excersize. Ok, but when your weight makes it hard to breathe or your knees wont support your weight to get on a treadmill...thats hard. WHen you dont make enough to join a gym or get a personal trainer or dietician....thats hard. Eating right gets you halfway there....but you have to move. THen it becomes emotional and you spiral downhill. Hence, emotional eating. It can be vicious cycle. I am not saying it cant be done but when you dont have a good support system and you dont know what to do...its damn hard.
I was 265 pounds, pre-diabetic, blood pressure issues and have a thyroid disease. I tried every diet and excersize plan in the book. THe only thing that helped was surgery. And you know what? 100 lbs gone and wearing a size 6, I am STILL considered "overweight" by todays standards.
If I didnt know I was so awesome as I am now....still being overweight could probably send me into a mental tailspin of eating and depression. Vicious cycle.
Diana1180: " THen it becomes emotional and you spiral downhill. Hence, emotional eating. It can be vicious cycle. I am not saying it cant be done but when you dont have a good support system and you dont know what to do...its damn hard."
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This is one very good reason a person does not need unsolicited comments putting them down about how they look. The internal struggle, the tug of war, the despair when a person fails is enough. Respect for the person and care for what comes out of one's mouth is the order of the day, not just how much one person can cause another to feel worse about their situation than they may already feel. No I am not obese and do not have these issues in my life all I have to do is look into the eyes of someone having hard time and see the what they are going through.
Empathy and understanding is a quality that is lacking in this day and age.
Thank you,