Neser Boha
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I decided to drag an issue I have on another forum, that I can't fully address over there, here to USMB.
The issue is welfare mothers having more kids or women on welfare TTC (trying to conceive).
Point in case:
There is this poster, in her early twenties, former drug addict that just had a baby. The baby is now give or take 5 months old and she is already planning to start TTC child #2. She already mentioned thinking about going back to school, but she thinks having another child is a priority to her. She is on welfare - lives in some sort of government subsidized housing, she's on foodstamps, doesn't have a car, the dad of her child is obviously a deadbeat if he can't even take care of their basic needs ... the whole shebang.
So, she posts this thread of possibly TTC #2 soon and I'm just sitting there boiling with frustration. I know, obviously, it's none of my damn business, but she's on welfare!!! Aren't people on welfare supposed to somehow try to better themselves so they can get off it and not consciously dig themselves in deeper? That was at least my understanding - welfare is meant for those that have come to hardship and need a helping hand. And then there she is, planning another child BEFORE even attempting to better her situation.
Let me just point out that I don't think that being poor should prevent you from having children. No, but being poor should definitely make you think very very hard whether having multiple children really is a way to go. I think her having a kid is all fine and dandy, but another? At what point do children become 'luxury'? I just wish folks used their large brains for their intended purpose ... What about all the folks that worked so hard to get to the point where they feel like they can have/afford children? Doesn't this feel like a big f you and slap in the face to them?
Gah, needed to get that off my chest first and foremost.
The issue is welfare mothers having more kids or women on welfare TTC (trying to conceive).
Point in case:
There is this poster, in her early twenties, former drug addict that just had a baby. The baby is now give or take 5 months old and she is already planning to start TTC child #2. She already mentioned thinking about going back to school, but she thinks having another child is a priority to her. She is on welfare - lives in some sort of government subsidized housing, she's on foodstamps, doesn't have a car, the dad of her child is obviously a deadbeat if he can't even take care of their basic needs ... the whole shebang.
So, she posts this thread of possibly TTC #2 soon and I'm just sitting there boiling with frustration. I know, obviously, it's none of my damn business, but she's on welfare!!! Aren't people on welfare supposed to somehow try to better themselves so they can get off it and not consciously dig themselves in deeper? That was at least my understanding - welfare is meant for those that have come to hardship and need a helping hand. And then there she is, planning another child BEFORE even attempting to better her situation.
Let me just point out that I don't think that being poor should prevent you from having children. No, but being poor should definitely make you think very very hard whether having multiple children really is a way to go. I think her having a kid is all fine and dandy, but another? At what point do children become 'luxury'? I just wish folks used their large brains for their intended purpose ... What about all the folks that worked so hard to get to the point where they feel like they can have/afford children? Doesn't this feel like a big f you and slap in the face to them?
Gah, needed to get that off my chest first and foremost.