Money and Relationships

[Bonzi]

On a date, the man should pay.

... even if the woman asked him out?

If a girl asks a guy out she should be prepared pay, but the guy should offer to pay for it anyways if he can afford it.

.... especially if he wants to get asked out a 2nd time

 

[Cecilie1200]

On a date, the man should pay.

... even if the woman asked him out?

If a girl asks a guy out she should be prepared pay, but the guy should offer to pay for it anyways if he can afford it.

.... especially if he wants to get asked out a 2nd time

I would suggest that it's definitely a bad idea for a man to look like he's cheap/always broke.

Not that loving men is all about the content of their wallets, but "slacker" is not an attractive quality.

 

[saveliberty]

Dear Bonzi,

I am married and no longer date as the wife and I agree not to see other people. Who pays?

Thanks,

Waiting by the ATM

 

[saveliberty]

Everyone likes to be treated on occasion, ladies.

 

[Bonzi]

Dear Bonzi,

I am married and no longer date as the wife and I agree not to see other people. Who pays?

Thanks,

Waiting by the ATM

Dear Waiting by the ATM,

Ask your wife on a date. Whoever makes the most money pays (of course!) -- or go on a double date with friends that always offer to pick up the tab

Bonzi

 

[saveliberty]

Hey, I even pay for my Christmas gifts.

 

[Bonzi]

Hey, I even pay for my Christmas gifts.

not bad for a cat.....

 

[jon_berzerk]

Who spends what / when?

What do you think is appropriate (to or for you?) in a dating situation?
Should the man always pay?
Should the man pay on the first several dates, then, negotiable?
What if the woman makes much more money?

How about marriage? Do you personally feel it's important to have one joint account?

we both spend

always -no

first several dates- depends on who is asking for the date

woman with bigger income -same same

we have several accounts some joint some individual

same with the cds and such

however we have made each other the beneficiaries

to each others personal accounts

 

[saveliberty]

Hey, I even pay for my Christmas gifts.

not bad for a cat.....

Once I learned the internet, an Amazon business was not far behind....

 

[Cecilie1200]

Who spends what / when?

What do you think is appropriate (to or for you?) in a dating situation?
Should the man always pay?
Should the man pay on the first several dates, then, negotiable?
What if the woman makes much more money?

How about marriage? Do you personally feel it's important to have one joint account?

we both spend

always -no

first several dates- depends on who is asking for the date

woman with bigger income -same same

we have several accounts some joint some individual

same with the cds and such

however we have made each other the beneficiaries

to each others personal accounts

Whether or not married people should have joint accounts depends entirely on the people. Some personalities and individual quirks work better with separate accounts. But if they go that way, they should make sure that provisions are made for access in case something bad happens.

 

[shadow355]

Who spends what / when?

What do you think is appropriate (to or for you?) in a dating situation?
Should the man always pay?
Should the man pay on the first several dates, then, negotiable?
What if the woman makes much more money?

How about marriage? Do you personally feel it's important to have one joint account?

The woman is supposed to pick the guy up in a nice Audi.
Then she drives him to a nice restraunt with a good atmosphere.
They both order expensive dinners and German beer to drink.
She picks up the tab - but he gets the tip.




Shadow 355

 

[Bonzi]

Who spends what / when?

What do you think is appropriate (to or for you?) in a dating situation?
Should the man always pay?
Should the man pay on the first several dates, then, negotiable?
What if the woman makes much more money?

How about marriage? Do you personally feel it's important to have one joint account?

The woman is supposed to pick the guy up in a nice Audi.
Then she drives him to a nice restraunt with a good atmosphere.
They both order expensive dinners and German beer to drink.
She picks up the tab - but he gets the tip.




Shadow 355

we all have our dreams (or delusions!)
... If I were rich enough to do that, I would have no problem with it however!

 

[shadow355]

On a date, the man should pay.

... even if the woman asked him out?

If she asked him out, there is something she likes about him....OR she is interested in him - it could be both. Her curiosity is aroused, she sees something in him she likes....OR she is really interested in him.

I've done the dinner / lunch thing many times with just a friend, even when she suggested we go out - and I paid. I even paid for a bowling night one time.....after she suggested we go.

I would let a female pay for a meal, on a lost bet or something along those lines.......but I would feel funny about it. Thats just me.

If there is not alot of stress or worry about how it will go, if there is not alot of tension ----> the first date says alot about a person. Intellect - manners - personality - ability in public - how well a person handles themselves. Eye contact, even how they eat their food ( too me ) tells things about a person. Their walk - conversation - ability to laugh and find humor....and what they find humor in. Eyes gazing / eye contact with me.

I.....for a long time have been a "people" magnet. I see things that others do not, and pick up on weak signals.

I hate a fake laugh. Someone whom fakes a laugh in a conversation.

Shadow 355

 

[Bonzi]

On a date, the man should pay.

... even if the woman asked him out?

If she asked him out, there is something she likes about him....OR she is interested in him - it could be both. Her curiosity is aroused, she sees something in him she likes....OR she is really interested in him.

I've done the dinner / lunch thing many times with just a friend, even when she suggested we go out - and I paid. I even paid for a bowling night one time.....after she suggested we go.

I would let a female pay for a meal, on a lost bet or something along those lines.......but I would feel funny about it. Thats just me.

If there is not alot of stress or worry about how it will go, if there is not alot of tension ----> the first date says alot about a person. Intellect - manners - personality - ability in public - how well a person handles themselves. Eye contact, even how they eat their food ( too me ) tells things about a person. Their walk - conversation - ability to laugh and find humor....and what they find humor in. Eyes gazing / eye contact with me.

I.....for a long time have been a "people" magnet. I see things that others do not, and pick up on weak signals.

I hate a fake laugh. Someone whom fakes a laugh in a conversation.

Shadow 355

I agree with all those things. I can (in person) normally read someone pretty well also.... Why someone would fake laugh it beyond me!

 

[shadow355]

Who spends what / when?

What do you think is appropriate (to or for you?) in a dating situation?
Should the man always pay?
Should the man pay on the first several dates, then, negotiable?
What if the woman makes much more money?

How about marriage? Do you personally feel it's important to have one joint account?

The woman is supposed to pick the guy up in a nice Audi.
Then she drives him to a nice restraunt with a good atmosphere.
They both order expensive dinners and German beer to drink.
She picks up the tab - but he gets the tip.




Shadow 355

we all have our dreams (or delusions!)
... If I were rich enough to do that, I would have no problem with it however!

( ROTFL )

Me - me - Me - Me.

Pick me.

Puh-leese pick me.

( hug - kiss on forehead - laugh )


Shadow 355

 

[shadow355]

On a date, the man should pay.

... even if the woman asked him out?

If she asked him out, there is something she likes about him....OR she is interested in him - it could be both. Her curiosity is aroused, she sees something in him she likes....OR she is really interested in him.

I've done the dinner / lunch thing many times with just a friend, even when she suggested we go out - and I paid. I even paid for a bowling night one time.....after she suggested we go.

I would let a female pay for a meal, on a lost bet or something along those lines.......but I would feel funny about it. Thats just me.

If there is not alot of stress or worry about how it will go, if there is not alot of tension ----> the first date says alot about a person. Intellect - manners - personality - ability in public - how well a person handles themselves. Eye contact, even how they eat their food ( too me ) tells things about a person. Their walk - conversation - ability to laugh and find humor....and what they find humor in. Eyes gazing / eye contact with me.

I.....for a long time have been a "people" magnet. I see things that others do not, and pick up on weak signals.

I hate a fake laugh. Someone whom fakes a laugh in a conversation.

Shadow 355

I agree with all those things. I can (in person) normally read someone pretty well also.... Why someone would fake laugh it beyond me!

The fake laugh. Sometimes it really stands out.

I have no idea why some people do that.

Shadow 355

 

[shadow355]

How about marriage? Do you personally feel it's important to have one joint account?

Seperate accounts.

She knows how much money she has and he knows how much money he has. Its not hiding money, it is better money management to me.

If they both work, they pay the bills - extra money goes into individual savings / checking accounts.

I would even leave my checkbook / savings book on her nightstand for her to see.

But when you think you have "X" amount of dollars and you dont because your significant other spent money.....that could cause a headache.

Seperate accounts. You control your money and they control theirs.

Just my opinion.


Shadow 355

 

[Bonzi]

How about marriage? Do you personally feel it's important to have one joint account?

Seperate accounts.

She knows how much money she has and he knows how much money he has. Its not hiding money, it is better money management to me.

If they both work, they pay the bills - extra money goes into individual savings / checking accounts.

I would even leave my checkbook / savings book on her nightstand for her to see.

But when you think you have "X" amount of dollars and you dont because your significant other spent money.....that could cause a headache.

Seperate accounts. You control your money and they control theirs.

Just my opinion.


Shadow 355

Hubby and I actually do it that way. Everything is where each other can find/see it - we each know what each other spends, we don't have anything to hide. Many marriages that is a "bone of contention" so I'm pretty lucky that that is NOT one of ours. We agree and have a great financial system.

Not that we don't have other problems! We are human beings after all!

 

[shadow355]

How about marriage? Do you personally feel it's important to have one joint account?

Seperate accounts.

She knows how much money she has and he knows how much money he has. Its not hiding money, it is better money management to me.

If they both work, they pay the bills - extra money goes into individual savings / checking accounts.

I would even leave my checkbook / savings book on her nightstand for her to see.

But when you think you have "X" amount of dollars and you dont because your significant other spent money.....that could cause a headache.

Seperate accounts. You control your money and they control theirs.

Just my opinion.


Shadow 355

Hubby and I actually do it that way. Everything is where each other can find/see it - we each know what each other spends, we don't have anything to hide. Many marriages that is a "bone of contention" so I'm pretty lucky that that is NOT one of ours. We agree and have a great financial system.

Not that we don't have other problems! We are human beings after all!

My first and only marriage ( Im divorced ) - I paid for everything, even though we both worked.

I paid the vehicle payments - rent - groceries - insurance on both vehicles - her nursing - utilities and other stuff. She give me money a few times to "run on".......AFTER I paid all the bills. That was stressful.

Two seperate accounts is not hiding money.....in my book. Again, I see it as better money management.

Shadow 355

 

[shadow355]

Everything is where each other can find/see it - we each know what each other spends, we don't

I do not like to argue or squabble over money.

Money to me in a marriage is not something you "hassle" over. Pay the bills - put food on the table and then split the remainder.

I hate to argue or "hassle" over money.

I donate alot each year. About $1000.00 or more = Girl Scout cookies - Boy Scout Popcorn - Cancer Awareness - Ectt..ect....and donations for this and that. I throw $5.00 or $10.00 a time..... in the kettle for the Salvation Army at Christmas time.


Shadow 355