Your specific position as ambiguous to me as well. When everyone is confused, it's not us.
As for me... my view is that we have built up years of anti-male, anti-boy, anti-masculinity culture.
Male suicide is natural given this.
It's pretty clear where all the good men went. We changed from Leave it to Beaver, Father Knows Best, and the Andy Griffith show, to Home Improvement, Roseanne, and Married with Children. From an old depiction of men who were at least respected, and tried to stand for what was right, to men who were not respected by anyone, and served only as mindless apes, and comedy relief.
Part of this is due to women who don't respect men, and partly due to how they simply don't parent their children. Instead of viewing themselves as having the job of raising kids to be adults, they want to "be their kids friends", and then those kids never grow up. That's bad girls, but devastating for boys. That's why we have 50 year old men, who still live at home, or live with a replacement mother.
Lastly, I also put the blame at parents in general who don't encourage boys to get married. Males tend to not mature into men, until they are married.
Women also fail to get this, by wanting a man that's already mature. That's extremely rare. It's by getting married and having responsibility, that matures the man.
Ironically, women tend to break this pattern, by moving in with the boy, without getting married. Thus the boy now has all the benefits, with zero responsibility, and no need to mature.
So it's partly cultural, partly parents, and partly the women themselves that have caused this crisis of lack of good men.
And as I said note, I also blame the "christian" church in America. The church has become very anti-male.
