I follow him on TikTok. He is a spiritual counselor. He works out of New York and he has written books--none of which I have read. He is so damn awesome. The videos are one minute long and that is sometimes all I have time for and then he tells me to have a kick ass day. Anyway he asked this question at night. He said he had a simple question. When did you know? When did you know they were wrong? When did you know that the things that people had been saying about you or criticizing you for weren't right? When did you know they were wrong and what flipped the switch for you? What event happened that caused you to say: Nope. They are wrong.
It's deep, huh? So, when did you? Four days ago is when it came out. One of the things that ***** me up is what is called imposter syndrome. I was like that is a damn good question. I think it hit me the day after the totality of what he was saying.
I know a lot of you, if any, will respond but you should check him out.
I watch a couple of spiritual counselors do their thing on TicTok too Disir but not sure one of them is that guy. Nobody has a NY accent if that's any help lol Any way yes...sounds like he asks the simple truths..the important questions and I like that very much too.
I can relate to your imposter syndrome, but it's been a chance to grow even more living that for a couple of years. I've previously had two jobs that were both outside my experience/credentials but was hired at the interview anyway. The entire time on the job (18 months temporary contract each) I felt like a complete fraud...an imposter for sure! I would have these silly dreams about "getting caught" somehow with the variables all twisted lol Anyway, yes..I could never shake feeling like "I only got that job because they were desperate" kind of thing in my mind haha I worked extra hard to not be a slacker in any way...first to arrive/last to leave etc. rarely a lunch. Instant workaholic ha I can be my worst enemy or my biggest fan and that's the voice that matters the most..the only crucial one really...our inner voice saying "Whoa! I wish I had all of those amazing and phenomenal talents! Kudos! " lol and who cares nobody else recognizes these most incredible gifted talents! lol
Hey, meant to mention I'll look for that guy on TikTok
thanks!
Wow! That only took 5 edits! I am getting ahead of the game now! A sign of inner doubts no doubt- need to perfect lol
He doesn't have an accent and I think it's because he is originally out of Wisconsin but I might have him confused with somebody else. You nailed it with "simple truths".
I do think that I only got the job because they were desperate. lol
That inner voice is a mean one. It's crucial. I was really lucky for a while that I had to go 90 miles an hour and I didn't have to contend with it. Then everything shifted but my mind didn't slow down.
We recognize your awesomeness.
Part of the dilemma of the imposter syndrome is to believe that living life as a process of growth means “bettering oneself”, when in fact real growth has nothing to do with that concept. I forget that part a lot. True growth is awareness and nurturing awareness, some say an enlightenment, or as Emilyheim eloquently stated, an “ah ha moment”. To be free from past regrets allows us to live in the present without fretting about the past, and to live and let live while holding true to one’s core values. Societies add in the man-made goals per culture, and as you already know the US is permeated with constant messages about self-improvement. For many decades now, it’s been a continuous societal drum beat encouraging people to go into significant debt to get ahead later. Many stay in debt for life once under. The US, in particular, approves of its citizens going into extreme debt, creating bucu interest and often revolving credit charges, to get ahead later. Profit motive over human cost. What a crock that is for our country... or any country.
Thinking more about that, what a perfect backdrop to sell the idea that living a good life is about what one achieves and what one owns. As if acquiring wealth leads to some state of perfection. As we know, there is not one person walking around on Earth who is perfect, even spiritual types who are solid in personal values and awareness can still have off days, but certainly things will never be enough, as they are fleeing goals in succession and nothing lasts forever.
I think it’s some built-in mechanism that we humans are programmed genetically to be determined to set up challenging goals, do what it takes to reach them, and choose to do the silly thing of reviewing everything with a fined tooth comb in your mind’s eye that was done to see what you could’ve done better. I guess that could be helpful for a person who writes out a daily list of goals maybe, but for people like me who do not journal and just hold the whole entire “conversation” in my head it’s way too wearing! Lol
Btw- there is no way you got the job because they were desperate. Considering the insightful energy you share with other posters on this message board, and your time you put in to keep this board alive and thriving finding intriguing articles to post, there is no way they did not see your shine. You almost sparkle Disr lol and thank you for it. Because of you and the other good posters on this board who make it worthwhile - thank you!
