Roe V Wade... Destroying tens of millions of lively children since 1973.
Women with the power of "choice".
Eradicating the progeny of America... since 1973.
Fuck you, bitches.
I have always wanted a son. I also knew that, no matter how much I wished otherwise, there was a good chance (there always is) that I would raise him alone and, if I had two children, both would suffer. In fact, by the time that he was born, I knew it was simply a matter of when. I had a tubal ligation. A choice. A choice that many doctors do not want to perform and, for me, was covered by insurance. Did you know that at one point you needed to have permission from your father or your husband to have this done? I repeated my argument with the doctor until the drugs knocked me out before surgery. AND I was married.
So, I asked for marriage counseling. That didn't work.The problem, to hear him tell it, was the fact he was facing layoffs. I argued (for 3 days) to go back to school in order to keep us afloat should we face that. He allowed me providing that he chose the major. He would not allow me to return to work unless he chose the employer. It became progressively worse. If I had stayed, I would lose my son in a different way and I could not protect him. The night we left we had eight police officers escort us to a shelter.
When we arrived, an officer asked if I wanted to file charges. I said no. I wasn't smart enough to realize that it might be handy or how to navigate the system. It isn't the officer's fault. It's mine. I
was smart enough to realize that if I left and went to my family that I would be arrested for kidnapping and I would lose my son. I had no job,half a tank of gas, ten bucks in my pocket, and finals the next day. The individual that handled our admission asked questions that I did not have an answer to and became frustrated. I took their little classes that go nowhere. I dealt with the condescending attitudes. I met women that were exactly in the same position of women that I had known all of my life and saw them in a very different light. I know why they go back. I know why they hook up with another. I have one child. More than that? We wouldn't have made it this far and, in retrospect, I have had it much easier than many.
I know the number of ways that I still cannot protect my son (or myself). The man had a bike accident years before I met him and it took out part of his frontal lobe. There have been significant changes over time. Time doesn't really heal all wounds (lying fuckers).
Now I am in a different position and see and learn things from a different angle. I made it a point to learn (and I am still learning) where people fail, the ever changing system fails, what recourse exists, what has never existed and why. I don't fault you for your stance, Mr. H. I'm not saying that the decisions that I made were superior to others. There were repercussions. I made these decisions with the knowledge and experience that I had at the time. I cannot stand in another woman's shoes and pretend to have intimate knowledge of the choices before her.
In the meantime, you keep saying bitch like it's a bad thing. I apologize for the length of my reply.