... or is that alarmist?
Even the "gay marriage" is aligning South vs. North...or no?
Could be, but I'd give it less than a 20% chance of really happening.
Agreed. There will be no "civil war" because New York vs Ferber upon peaceful civil challenge will overturn Obergefell and the question of states defining marriage will be affirmed in favor of the states. There never was a provision in the Constitution for either 1. Just some deviant repugnant sex behaviors but not others (polygamy, for instance which the 14th says should also right now be legal) or 2. A definition or promise of a "right" for everyone to marry anyone they like.
Loving v Virgina was about race, not behavior. And it didn't eradicate a mother and father for children. Gay marriage does, and that's a problem. And, harmful ultimately to children. New York vs Ferber (1982) was a USSC Finding that says that even if an adult enjoys a constitutionally-protect right, even as rock-solid as the 1st Amendment which the Court slavishly finds in favor of, that right cannot hurt a child or children physically or psychologically.
Ferber was a depraved man who was trying to peddle child pornography featuring two young boys masturbating. He claimed when New York shut him down, that doing so was his constitutional right. He won initially in the lower courts but when SCOTUS reviewed his "right" they recoiled and determined that no, there was a clear line in the sand when children are involved in any adult "right" if that right harms them. Then, it isn't constitutionally-protected. An interesting case for those thinking about challenging Obergefell 2015...