How to Deal with the Family Criminal?...

[Anathema]

We all make mistakes.
Treat him like you would treat another person.

Honestly, I don't have much use for most people. Given the option, I'd go out of my WY to ensure my wife and I never see my uncle. Apparently my mother is not going good to allow that to happen.

 

[Anathema]

What you don't say leaves too much room for conjecture. You make it appear that your wife was raped by this guy and gets triggered when she sees him. Is that true?

No. My wife's assailant is not my uncle. Two totally different criminals doing very different things to different girls in different parts of the world. She and I just make it a point to try and a out socializing with criminals in general and sexual criminals particularly. We're funny like thst.

From the charges and circumstances, photography business, child endangerment, did he go to prison for kiddie porn?

No. There were no pornography charges levied in his case. He taped girls changing clothes and exposure get himself to underage girls. No physical contact was ever alleged.

 

[Toro]

Sex is about feeling really, really, really good.

You don't use a red cape?

Only on Superhero night!

 

[Anathema]

One day when your mother is gone you'll never see him again. And if he visits her Saturday ID visit on Sunday.

We will never see him in a private setting goals. That's already been decided. It's larger gatherings..... weddings, funerals, family reunions that are the issue.

Also consider he paid his dues. He served his time. He owes you and your wife nothing. If he didn't rape your wife then she's punishing him for something he didn't do

We obviously have different ideas about what Justice is when it comes to this type of crime.

 

[Anathema]

Just remember to turn away before you spray. FOX is good stuff but Sabre has some good ones, watch some youtube's, puts people down for a while.

I'm more of a firearm user than aerosol sprays.

 

[Skull Pilot]

I got word from my mother this evening that the Black Sheep of our family (my father's youngest brother) will likely be getting out of prison next April.

If so, he will have served 8 years of a 15 year sentence for multiple Child Endangerment and Invasion of Privacy charges he plead guilty to in 2009. These were related to a home photography business he ran. He will have to register as a sex offender and will be on lifetime parole.

Some of you know that my wife was raped and sexually assaulted on multiple occasions as a pre-teen. She still suffers the PTSD effects of those incidents even after nearly a decade of counseling (she repressed the memories for over a decade).

Assuming my uncle is released, there is a very high probability that he will be at certain family events that my wife and I also attend.

My wife has made it extremely clear that she wants nothing to do with him. I agree and feel the same way. However, my mother has made it very clear that she wants and expects me (not my wife) to at least be cordial to him at these events. I'd rather simply avoid him completely. If for no other reason than keeping me from causing a scene when I kick his ass.

What do you folks think? Any advice or suggestions on how to handle this sort of situation?

Just don't go to any events he attends. Your wife's wishes trump those of your mother

Easy.

 

[Iceweasel]

Just remember to turn away before you spray. FOX is good stuff but Sabre has some good ones, watch some youtube's, puts people down for a while.

I'm more of a firearm user than aerosol sprays.

Mom will get pissed if you spray his brains on her.

 

[Onyx]

The human condition IS ethics.

Uh, no.

They are two entirely different philosophical concepts.

 

[Onyx]

That's stupid. You can only speak for yourself. If sex is about power and control that's you acting out on your shortcomings.

No, actually it is a simple fact that applies to all sexual attraction.

Rather than acting out on my shortcomings, I am building upon thousands of years of established sexual thought.

 

[Iceweasel]

That's stupid. You can only speak for yourself. If sex is about power and control that's you acting out on your shortcomings.

No, actually it is a simple fact that applies to all sexual attraction.

Rather than acting out on my shortcomings, I am building upon thousands of years of established sexual thought.

You're building a steamy pile of shit. Not everyone is a power freak. Human sexuality is an expression of who you really are. It's clear that you think you are King Kong. I imagine many a gal told you to go **** yourself.

 

[Onyx]

Not everyone is a power freak.

Never said everyone was.

There are three categories. Dominant and submissive, and one more to describe a compromise between the two.

Human sexuality is an expression of who you really are.

False.

It is an expression of sexual hormones. You can put personality into it all you want, but it wont make a difference. Sex is driven by the subconscious.

 

[Iceweasel]

Not everyone is a power freak.

Never said everyone was.

There are three categories. Dominant and submissive, and one more to describe a compromise between the two.

Human sexuality is an expression of who you really are.

False.

It is an expression of sexual hormones. You can put personality into it all you want, but it wont make a difference. Sex is driven by the subconscious.

The subconscious doesn't make one wear leather ass chaps and arm themselves with a riding crop. You are talking out of your ass.

 

[Onyx]

The subconscious doesn't make one wear leather ass chaps and arm themselves with a riding crop. You are talking out of your ass.

So you believe sexual attraction and fetishes are determined by the conscious level of the brain?

You are going to get an ass whipping trying to promote that junk theory to sex scientists

 

[Iceweasel]

The subconscious doesn't make one wear leather ass chaps and arm themselves with a riding crop. You are talking out of your ass.

So you believe sexual attraction and fetishes are determined by the conscious level of the brain?

You are going to get an ass whipping trying to promote that junk theory to sex scientists

Junk theory? You think the subconscience is responsible for bondage, pedophilia, beastiality, etc? So therefore perverts are merely victims of their hormones?

 

[Onyx]

Junk theory? You think the subconscience is responsible for bondage, pedophilia, beastiality, etc?

Yes, this is commonly accepted knowledge.

Why do you obsess over ass, titties, and missionary position? My guess is that you cannot rationalize why tits turn you on, hence the subconscious.

So therefore perverts are merely victims of their hormones?

We are all victims of hormones.

It is why sex generally constitutes as an addiction. If there were no sex hormones there would be no urge to have sex (or ejaculation for that matter).

 

[Iceweasel]

Junk theory? You think the subconscience is responsible for bondage, pedophilia, beastiality, etc?

Yes, this is commonly accepted knowledge.

Why do you obsess over ass, titties, and missionary position? My guess is that you cannot rationalize why tits turn you on, hence the subconscious.

So therefore perverts are merely victims of their hormones?

We are all victims of hormones.

It is why sex generally constitutes as an addiction. If there were no sex hormones there would be no urge to have sex (or ejaculation for that matter).

No, you can't bluff your away around. Sex is an addiction? You don't even have grade school word knowledge. We all have hormones but most of us have brains too. some people use those brains to delve into some perverted shit. It isn't predetermined and you can't begin to support it.

 

[Onyx]

No, you can't bluff your away around.

On the contrary, I cannot keep espousing established sex psychology with someone uneducated on sex psychology.

Sex is an addiction?

Not necessarily. It is however addictive.

You don't even have grade school word knowledge.

Deflection.

We all have hormones but most of us have brains too. some people use those brains to delve into some perverted shit.

In our brains is a subconscious. You do not choose to apply "perversion," but rather "perversion" naturally dwells at the edges of your mind

It isn't predetermined and you can't begin to support it.

Never said it was. I stated that it was subconscious.

Again, rationalize why you fixate on tits (presumably)

 

[Anathema]

Just don't go to any events he attends. Your wife's wishes trump those of your mother

True. Unfortunately that means effectively alienating myself from my entire family.

 

[sealybobo]

Then you should harbor more ill-will toward her family members than to someone else convicted of a sex crime that in no way involved your wife.

My frustration and annoyance with my in-laws is well known in the family. I find sex crimes and other Moral deviance to be inexcusable. There are no excuses or harsh enough punishments for such people in my mind.

Your animosity for your uncle just seems bizarre to me. Avoid the guy. No big deal. Don't engage. If he wants to, politely make your position clear.

The problem is that avoiding him will likely mean having to avoid other family members whom I like, as well. We don't get together often as we're spread over the entire Northeast at this point.

We have an unhealthy animosity toward anyone locked up in this country. If you do time for most any offense, we vilify you. You're irredeemable. Hell, your uncle may have been abused himself. That's typically what sparks an abuser. Perhaps he may share that and in that way have something in COMMON with your wife? We need more empathy and less hatred. And not just for you. For your wife, as well.

He was likely molested himself. That's not an excuse for doing it to others. My wife doesn't even want to see him, never mind converse.

Indeed, he was a victim. It's pathological that victims often become abusers. To throw them out with the trash is to perpetuate the cycle of abuse, and make sure it carries on. Your attitude in no way helps your wife, or people like her.

Just a thought. Keep in mind a Peeping Tom is a lot different than a rapist. So if this relative of yours was a flasher or a Peeping Tom he's not really a rapist he's just a pervert and your wife needs to be reminded that all guys are a little perverted. If you didn't hurt anyone which I'm not sure if you did or didn't then don't act like he's raping women

 

[sealybobo]

One day when your mother is gone you'll never see him again. And if he visits her Saturday ID visit on Sunday.

We will never see him in a private setting goals. That's already been decided. It's larger gatherings..... weddings, funerals, family reunions that are the issue.

Also consider he paid his dues. He served his time. He owes you and your wife nothing. If he didn't rape your wife then she's punishing him for something he didn't do

We obviously have different ideas about what Justice is when it comes to this type of crime.

Remind me what exactly did he do?