How do you build REAL self-esteem?

[Darkwind]

We gain confidence by doing. It is a fundamental truth of life.

If you are a helicopter parent, pay attention to how it's really done.

Oops....

Try this one.

Okay.

Never mind. LOL

 

[Anomalism]

In my experience, real self-esteem comes from living your life in a way that you're actually proud of.

 

[Lockback]

Discipline.
Doing the right thing when nobody's watching.

 

[Darkwind]

Man, you guys should have seen. LOL

Oh well.

 

[my2¢]

Being generous and helping others.

 

[MarathonMike]

But what about kids with no self esteem? That seems to be a very serious problem these days.

 

[Darkwind]

But what about kids with no self esteem? That seems to be a very serious problem these days.

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The problem, from where I'm sitting, is the exact opposite. Kids today have far too much false self-esteem.

 

[Lockback]

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The problem, from where I'm sitting, is the exact opposite. Kids today have far too much false self-esteem.

Well, that's a good point.

 

[Seymour Flops]

The first step for me would be to drop the term "self-esteem" and replace it with "self-respect."

"Self-esteem" was first used as a substitute for "self-respect," by the same people who brought you no spanking kids, permissive parenting and participation trophies.

The idea of self-esteem is for someone else to be responsible to instill it in you, for anyone but yourself to take charge of your feelings.

Self-respect, as with any other kind of respect, is earned. When people earn respect, they rarely fail to get it, be it from others whose respect they have earned, or from themselves having earned their own respect.

 

[MarathonMike]

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The problem, from where I'm sitting, is the exact opposite. Kids today have far too much false self-esteem.

I don't think so. Young girls for the most part think they have to look like Sydney Sweeney or they are a failure. Many young men suffer from social isolation, drug use, gambling etc. all associated with poor self esteem.

 

[1srelluc]

The first step for me would be to drop the term "self-esteem" and replace it with "self-respect."

"Self-esteem" was first used as a substitute for "self-respect," by the same people who brought you no spanking kids, permissive parenting and participation trophies.

The idea of self-esteem is for someone else to be responsible to instill it in you, for anyone but yourself to take charge of your feelings.

Self-respect, as with any other kind of respect, is earned. When people earn respect, they rarely fail to get it, be it from others whose respect they have earned, or from themselves having earned their own respect.

Damn! That was the first thing that crossed my mind....Well, a much shorter version.

I have better things to occupy my time than to heap empty platitudes on the self-described worthless.

 

[LibertyWeeps]

We gain confidence by doing. It is a fundamental truth of life.

If you are a helicopter parent, pay attention to how it's really done.

Oops....

Try this one.

Okay.

Never mind. LOL