Explain how people are afraid of homosexuals. I'm not a fan of bread pudding.. does this mean I am scared of bread pudding?
I am sure that few if any fear gay people in the sense that they experience anxiety when in their presence such as might be the case if it were someone who could actually harm them at the moment, in some way. However, there are many ways to be fearful. Homophobes may be afraid of the changes to society that gay people represent. They may be fearful of the changing definition of the family even though same sex marriage is just the latest manifestation of change. The changing sexual norms and values my assail their sensibilities and they blame the gays for it, even though the acceptance of gays is a result, not a cause of those broader changes. Finally, they may, on some level have doubts and fears about their own sexuality and see gays as a threat in the sense that it may compel them to confront a side to themselves that they would rather ignore. And, they are alI, irrational fears and therefore neurotic. l hope that answers your question.
No, it just reaffirms what I already know. It is a label that is thrown around, like bigot and racist that seeks to shame people for not throwing all in on what someone else believes. No sane person would rationally argue that gays should be denied any rights that anyone else is entitled to. Hey, I'm all in. But when I tell you that
I just don't accept gay marriage, and the response almost in every case is to label me a homophobe, well, that's just crazy. I can hold a belief/opinion opposite to you, I am allowed. It doesn't mean I wish anyone harm or to be disadvantaged or that I am scared.