Winning is having a Government that doesnt intentionally pit people against other people because of how they were born. If that's sad, you're on the evil side.
They can think I'm wrong all day, and consider themselves no different than me.
But there is one right, and one wrong.
Liberal government intentionally pits people against each other every day. I'm guessing you're an Obama fan, do you critisize him for pitting blacks against whites, poor against rich?
This argument could have been over years ago when it was all about 'civil rights' and 'equality under the law'. Civil unions could have been instituted and marriage left to the church, but that wasn't good enough. Gay groups were insistant on changing what marriage meant and shoving it down the throats of everyone, which is when I lost respect for their so called 'cause'. I did have empathy for them at one time, not so much anymore. Every gay person that I've talked about with this issue individually says that civil union isn't good enough, equality under the law isn't good enough. So then just be honest about what the true agenda is and be done with it already. Even if you change the definition of marriage, you cannot force a religious institution to bless it, you still will not change people's minds to accept it as normal. So perhaps there will be 'victory' and satisfaction, but because of the way they went about it, it will be a hollow one in my opinion. Making it legal, insisting it be called marriage will still not change the hearts and minds of those that thing it's wrong, it will not force acceptance.
If it's about equality and civil rights, pass civil union legislation and be done with it.