Friendship

[Spinster]

I have to admit that since I've been married I haven't had any close friends.

Oh, and I've never had a female friend that was attractive yet I had no attractions for her. Face up to your humanity. It's okay to be sexually attracted to someone and not act on it. Sometimes that makes the friendship better.

dunno... depends on your commitment to your marriage, the health of your marriage and your will power.
seems like it's "tempting fate" to me....

Well, if you don't want to test your resolve you could always refuse to make any friends. At this point perhaps the aggravation just isn't worth it anymore. I think that if a couple is truly happy they don't need friends anyway. They prefer each others company.

Totally disagree with that. Being happy with each other has nothing to do with having friends outside of the relationship.

Depends on the friends.

If a woman is always friends with lots of men obviously she doesn't get everything she needs from her husband or spouse. Their friends are just fillers for whatever the spouse may be lacking, be it conversation or mutual experiences. Men will settle for sex or an attractive wife, but women like the whole package.....much more than men. Perhaps this is because women are usually less superficial.

I know I'm exposing my bias a little.

Really? Much LESS superficial? Boy, are you ever deceived by women, or just trolling for support.

 

[Ava]

What would your definition be of a "friend"?
Do you have many "real friends"?

Do you think friendship means different things to different people?
Do you think it's possible for men/women to be friends without one being a "little more interested" than the other?

A true friend is someone who is there for you if you need them to be. They care about your cares.

I have one good/close friend plus one good acquaintance who almost qualifies when compared to the close friend. The rest are all I need for them to be and that is distant acquaintances. I have never wanted more than one or two close friendships at a time. I don't want the responsibility that goes with that as I prefer spending the majority of my time with my very closest friend -myself.

I do think it is possible for men and women to be friends without one being a "little more interested" but I have personally never experienced it. lol

"Do you think friendship means different things to different people?"

I don't know.

 

[mudwhistle]

I have to admit that since I've been married I haven't had any close friends.

Oh, and I've never had a female friend that was attractive yet I had no attractions for her. Face up to your humanity. It's okay to be sexually attracted to someone and not act on it. Sometimes that makes the friendship better.

dunno... depends on your commitment to your marriage, the health of your marriage and your will power.
seems like it's "tempting fate" to me....

Well, if you don't want to test your resolve you could always refuse to make any friends. At this point perhaps the aggravation just isn't worth it anymore. I think that if a couple is truly happy they don't need friends anyway. They prefer each others company.

Totally disagree with that. Being happy with each other has nothing to do with having friends outside of the relationship.

Depends on the friends.

If a woman is always friends with lots of men obviously she doesn't get everything she needs from her husband or spouse. Their friends are just fillers for whatever the spouse may be lacking, be it conversation or mutual experiences. Men will settle for sex or an attractive wife, but women like the whole package.....much more than men. Perhaps this is because women are usually less superficial.

I know I'm exposing my bias a little.

Really? Much LESS superficial? Boy, are you ever deceived by women, or just trolling for support.

I was speaking on average.

I have met tons of superficial women. Women with the emotional capacity of a teaspoon. But men tend to be that way much more often. As a matter of fact, in Texas, it's considered an asset.

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

My final comment on this thread:

Anyone that claim that no one can have a friendship with a female without the man being attracted to them tell me so much about the individual that making that comment.

They most likely believe every man that look their way and give them a smirk that they mistake as a smile meaning the man is interested in them in a sexual way when it could actually mean the man is just being kind and polite after the woman stood there staring at them until the man looked their way.

I know how dare I write something like that when every straight man should be wanting to rip their clothes off and want sexual favors from them.

Also using a study that make it clear most men in general think one way is not helping the argument with me. The fact still remain that some men do not act that way and they're not gay nor is the sexual life dead either.

I know how dare I write something like that!

Also when someone write the man must be gay then tell me how shallow the individual is, and most likely believe that if a man does not find them attractive and not want to have sex with them then it mean they must be gay, but what they might not understand is that the man may find them to be worthless twits not worth the time to even strike up a conversation.

I know how dare I write something like that!

As for my friend and why there is no sexual chemistry is because she is my friend and to be my friend mean you have to be someone I trust with my life, and I would die for you and she is as nuts as I am in real life.

I do not care if Chris L. accepts this nor do I care if Bonzi accepts it either. If the two of you want to write the guy has to be gay then it tell me the type of individual you are and how shallow the two of you are.

The two of you can respond to you are blue in the face and call me on what I wrote but the reality is neither of you know me and to imply someone a phony and liar like Chris L. did is total bullshit on her part.

Also telling someone that they should stay civil toward her after the countless of times she implied that the person is a phony and liar is like me telling someone to be civil after I write that they are a worthless *****, and there is no civility left.

So let me wrap this up with this:

1. A man can be friends with a female without any sexual attraction and those that say that is not true are shallow individuals that have no opposite sex friends.

2. If a man is this way they are not gay and those that make that claim are no different then those men that call a woman a lesbian when the woman rejects them in life.

3. If you want civility then don't imply someone is a phony or a liar or gay, and if you do the civility is out of the window, and you caused it and not the other poster.

That is it, and I will not respond further in this thread nor anymore of Bonzi threads and I am sure she will write that it is not great loss but making it clear I am done with the mean girl bullshit on this site...

 

[Alex.]

My final comment on this thread:

Anyone that claim that no one can have a friendship with a female without the man being attracted to them tell me so much about the individual that making that comment.

They most likely believe every man that look their way and give them a smirk that they mistake as a smile meaning the man is interested in them in a sexual way when it could actually mean the man is just being kind and polite after the woman stood there staring at them until the man looked their way.

I know how dare I write something like that when every straight man should be wanting to rip their clothes off and want sexual favors from them.

Also using a study that make it clear most men in general think one way is not helping the argument with me. The fact still remain that some men do not act that way and they're not gay nor is the sexual life dead either.

I know how dare I write something like that!

Also when someone write the man must be gay then tell me how shallow the individual is, and most likely believe that if a man does not find them attractive and not want to have sex with them then it mean they must be gay, but what they might not understand is that the man may find them to be worthless twits not worth the time to even strike up a conversation.

I know how dare I write something like that!

As for my friend and why there is no sexual chemistry is because she is my friend and to be my friend mean you have to be someone I trust with my life, and I would die for you and she is as nuts as I am in real life.

I do not care if Chris L. accepts this nor do I care if Bonzi accepts it either. If the two of you want to write the guy has to be gay then it tell me the type of individual you are and how shallow the two of you are.

The two of you can respond to you are blue in the face and call me on what I wrote but the reality is neither of you know me and to imply someone a phony and liar like Chris L. did is total bullshit on her part.

Also telling someone that they should stay civil toward her after the countless of times she implied that the person is a phony and liar is like me telling someone to be civil after I write that they are a worthless *****, and there is no civility left.

So let me wrap this up with this:

1. A man can be friends with a man without any sexual attraction and those that say that is not true are shallow individuals that have no opposite sex friends.

2. If a man is this way they are not gay and those that make that claim are no different then those men that call a woman a lesbian when the woman rejects them in life.

3. If you want civility then don't imply someone is a phony or a liar or gay, and if you do the civility is out of the window, and you caused it and not the other poster.

That is it, and I will not respond further in this thread nor anymore of Bonzi threads and I am sure she will write that it is not great loss but making it clear I am done with the mean girl bullshit on this site...

You have good things to say don't let chrisl and her cray cray shit get to ya. She is on a mission to populate her otherwise empty and desolate quadrant in lock down.

 

[ChrisL]

I have to admit that since I've been married I haven't had any close friends.

Oh, and I've never had a female friend that was attractive yet I had no attractions for her. Face up to your humanity. It's okay to be sexually attracted to someone and not act on it. Sometimes that makes the friendship better.

dunno... depends on your commitment to your marriage, the health of your marriage and your will power.
seems like it's "tempting fate" to me....

Well, if you don't want to test your resolve you could always refuse to make any friends. At this point perhaps the aggravation just isn't worth it anymore. I think that if a couple is truly happy they don't need friends anyway. They prefer each others company.

Totally disagree with that. Being happy with each other has nothing to do with having friends outside of the relationship.

Depends on the friends.

If a woman is always friends with lots of men obviously she doesn't get everything she needs from her husband or spouse. Their friends are just fillers for whatever the spouse may be lacking, be it conversation or mutual experiences. Men will settle for sex or an attractive wife, but women like the whole package.....much more than men. Perhaps this is because women are usually less superficial.

I know I'm exposing my bias a little.

In some cases, absolutely. I think your spouse should be where you go for your emotional support and needs. Why would you have to go outside your marriage for emotional support and needs? Perhaps some people are happy or content with such relationships. I have a friend (recently divorced, mind you - lol), who used to vacation separately from her husband (he would go on vacation with his friends/she with her friends). Their relationship always seemed like more of a partnership? If you know what I mean. I guess in that type of situation, you would need to have your friends for emotional support and they would be a very important part of your life. However, my friend ended up cheating on her husband with one of their MUTUAL friends (who was also married). Her husband divorced her and got custody of the kiddies! I was like, wow, are you dumb. She didn't even have to work. Her hubby paid all the bills.

 

[mudwhistle]

My final comment on this thread:

Anyone that claim that no one can have a friendship with a female without the man being attracted to them tell me so much about the individual that making that comment.

They most likely believe every man that look their way and give them a smirk that they mistake as a smile meaning the man is interested in them in a sexual way when it could actually mean the man is just being kind and polite after the woman stood there staring at them until the man looked their way.

I know how dare I write something like that when every straight man should be wanting to rip their clothes off and want sexual favors from them.

Also using a study that make it clear most men in general think one way is not helping the argument with me. The fact still remain that some men do not act that way and they're not gay nor is the sexual life dead either.

I know how dare I write something like that!

Also when someone write the man must be gay then tell me how shallow the individual is, and most likely believe that if a man does not find them attractive and not want to have sex with them then it mean they must be gay, but what they might not understand is that the man may find them to be worthless twits not worth the time to even strike up a conversation.

I know how dare I write something like that!

As for my friend and why there is no sexual chemistry is because she is my friend and to be my friend mean you have to be someone I trust with my life, and I would die for you and she is as nuts as I am in real life.

I do not care if Chris L. accepts this nor do I care if Bonzi accepts it either. If the two of you want to write the guy has to be gay then it tell me the type of individual you are and how shallow the two of you are.

The two of you can respond to you are blue in the face and call me on what I wrote but the reality is neither of you know me and to imply someone a phony and liar like Chris L. did is total bullshit on her part.

Also telling someone that they should stay civil toward her after the countless of times she implied that the person is a phony and liar is like me telling someone to be civil after I write that they are a worthless *****, and there is no civility left.

So let me wrap this up with this:

1. A man can be friends with a man without any sexual attraction and those that say that is not true are shallow individuals that have no opposite sex friends.

2. If a man is this way they are not gay and those that make that claim are no different then those men that call a woman a lesbian when the woman rejects them in life.

3. If you want civility then don't imply someone is a phony or a liar or gay, and if you do the civility is out of the window, and you caused it and not the other poster.

That is it, and I will not respond further in this thread nor anymore of Bonzi threads and I am sure she will write that it is not great loss but making it clear I am done with the mean girl bullshit on this site...

Instead of writing all of the above....just use an appropriate illustration or photo to say what you mean.

https://s.yimg.com/lo/api/res/1.2/Re5lKSBGqAPG7_duMDhmWw--/YXBwaWQ9eWlzZWFyY2g7Zmk9Zml0O2dlPTAwNjYwMDtncz0wMEEzMDA7aD00Njc7dz00MDA-/http://sd.keepcalm-o-matic.co.uk/i/calm-down-and-****-off.png.cf.png

 

[ChrisL]

My final comment on this thread:

Anyone that claim that no one can have a friendship with a female without the man being attracted to them tell me so much about the individual that making that comment.

They most likely believe every man that look their way and give them a smirk that they mistake as a smile meaning the man is interested in them in a sexual way when it could actually mean the man is just being kind and polite after the woman stood there staring at them until the man looked their way.

I know how dare I write something like that when every straight man should be wanting to rip their clothes off and want sexual favors from them.

Also using a study that make it clear most men in general think one way is not helping the argument with me. The fact still remain that some men do not act that way and they're not gay nor is the sexual life dead either.

I know how dare I write something like that!

Also when someone write the man must be gay then tell me how shallow the individual is, and most likely believe that if a man does not find them attractive and not want to have sex with them then it mean they must be gay, but what they might not understand is that the man may find them to be worthless twits not worth the time to even strike up a conversation.

I know how dare I write something like that!

As for my friend and why there is no sexual chemistry is because she is my friend and to be my friend mean you have to be someone I trust with my life, and I would die for you and she is as nuts as I am in real life.

I do not care if Chris L. accepts this nor do I care if Bonzi accepts it either. If the two of you want to write the guy has to be gay then it tell me the type of individual you are and how shallow the two of you are.

The two of you can respond to you are blue in the face and call me on what I wrote but the reality is neither of you know me and to imply someone a phony and liar like Chris L. did is total bullshit on her part.

Also telling someone that they should stay civil toward her after the countless of times she implied that the person is a phony and liar is like me telling someone to be civil after I write that they are a worthless *****, and there is no civility left.

So let me wrap this up with this:

1. A man can be friends with a female without any sexual attraction and those that say that is not true are shallow individuals that have no opposite sex friends.

2. If a man is this way they are not gay and those that make that claim are no different then those men that call a woman a lesbian when the woman rejects them in life.

3. If you want civility then don't imply someone is a phony or a liar or gay, and if you do the civility is out of the window, and you caused it and not the other poster.

That is it, and I will not respond further in this thread nor anymore of Bonzi threads and I am sure she will write that it is not great loss but making it clear I am done with the mean girl bullshit on this site...

My comments are supported by the statistics and biological norms. Sorry. No need to be a drama queen though. Geez. Lol.

 

[ChrisL]

My final comment on this thread:

Anyone that claim that no one can have a friendship with a female without the man being attracted to them tell me so much about the individual that making that comment.

They most likely believe every man that look their way and give them a smirk that they mistake as a smile meaning the man is interested in them in a sexual way when it could actually mean the man is just being kind and polite after the woman stood there staring at them until the man looked their way.

I know how dare I write something like that when every straight man should be wanting to rip their clothes off and want sexual favors from them.

Also using a study that make it clear most men in general think one way is not helping the argument with me. The fact still remain that some men do not act that way and they're not gay nor is the sexual life dead either.

I know how dare I write something like that!

Also when someone write the man must be gay then tell me how shallow the individual is, and most likely believe that if a man does not find them attractive and not want to have sex with them then it mean they must be gay, but what they might not understand is that the man may find them to be worthless twits not worth the time to even strike up a conversation.

I know how dare I write something like that!

As for my friend and why there is no sexual chemistry is because she is my friend and to be my friend mean you have to be someone I trust with my life, and I would die for you and she is as nuts as I am in real life.

I do not care if Chris L. accepts this nor do I care if Bonzi accepts it either. If the two of you want to write the guy has to be gay then it tell me the type of individual you are and how shallow the two of you are.

The two of you can respond to you are blue in the face and call me on what I wrote but the reality is neither of you know me and to imply someone a phony and liar like Chris L. did is total bullshit on her part.

Also telling someone that they should stay civil toward her after the countless of times she implied that the person is a phony and liar is like me telling someone to be civil after I write that they are a worthless *****, and there is no civility left.

So let me wrap this up with this:

1. A man can be friends with a female without any sexual attraction and those that say that is not true are shallow individuals that have no opposite sex friends.

2. If a man is this way they are not gay and those that make that claim are no different then those men that call a woman a lesbian when the woman rejects them in life.

3. If you want civility then don't imply someone is a phony or a liar or gay, and if you do the civility is out of the window, and you caused it and not the other poster.

That is it, and I will not respond further in this thread nor anymore of Bonzi threads and I am sure she will write that it is not great loss but making it clear I am done with the mean girl bullshit on this site...

Sexual attraction and fantasies are normal. They do not mean you are "shallow" or anything else. It is normal human behavior and instincts.

 

[ChrisL]

Normally, people don't really have much "control" over WHO they are attracted to. It has nothing to DO with being shallow. Lol. I never said you had to ACT upon it. I said that heterosexual men and women who develop friendships and find one another attractive are going to have a difficult time with keeping things platonic if they have more of a friendship level than acquaintance.

This is normal heterosexual instinctual biological reproductive behavior in action.

 

[ChrisL]

My final comment on this thread:

Anyone that claim that no one can have a friendship with a female without the man being attracted to them tell me so much about the individual that making that comment.

They most likely believe every man that look their way and give them a smirk that they mistake as a smile meaning the man is interested in them in a sexual way when it could actually mean the man is just being kind and polite after the woman stood there staring at them until the man looked their way.

I know how dare I write something like that when every straight man should be wanting to rip their clothes off and want sexual favors from them.

Also using a study that make it clear most men in general think one way is not helping the argument with me. The fact still remain that some men do not act that way and they're not gay nor is the sexual life dead either.

I know how dare I write something like that!

Also when someone write the man must be gay then tell me how shallow the individual is, and most likely believe that if a man does not find them attractive and not want to have sex with them then it mean they must be gay, but what they might not understand is that the man may find them to be worthless twits not worth the time to even strike up a conversation.

I know how dare I write something like that!

As for my friend and why there is no sexual chemistry is because she is my friend and to be my friend mean you have to be someone I trust with my life, and I would die for you and she is as nuts as I am in real life.

I do not care if Chris L. accepts this nor do I care if Bonzi accepts it either. If the two of you want to write the guy has to be gay then it tell me the type of individual you are and how shallow the two of you are.

The two of you can respond to you are blue in the face and call me on what I wrote but the reality is neither of you know me and to imply someone a phony and liar like Chris L. did is total bullshit on her part.

Also telling someone that they should stay civil toward her after the countless of times she implied that the person is a phony and liar is like me telling someone to be civil after I write that they are a worthless *****, and there is no civility left.

So let me wrap this up with this:

1. A man can be friends with a female without any sexual attraction and those that say that is not true are shallow individuals that have no opposite sex friends.

2. If a man is this way they are not gay and those that make that claim are no different then those men that call a woman a lesbian when the woman rejects them in life.

3. If you want civility then don't imply someone is a phony or a liar or gay, and if you do the civility is out of the window, and you caused it and not the other poster.

That is it, and I will not respond further in this thread nor anymore of Bonzi threads and I am sure she will write that it is not great loss but making it clear I am done with the mean girl bullshit on this site...

Mud was the one who asked if you were gay. Lol.

I think a man CAN be friends with a female that he does not find attractive. Men are visual creatures and yes, they are going to think of a female they find attractive in a sexual manner if they are heterosexual. That is just biological sex drive in men. Totally normal. Nothing to feel ashamed about.

 

[ChrisL]

Guy is totally being less than honest. Come on guy! Who do you think you're fooling? Certainly not moi.

 

[ChrisL]

Let us look at yet this honestly now. If the woman is fat, old, unattractive, then you may be able to maintain a close platonic friendship with her. If you find the woman attractive, you are going to make things very difficult for yourself though, guys!

You can see it happen even in the case of "acquaintances." Don't know if some of you are old and out of touch or live under a rock or something? However, the male/female close friendship (without ******* eventually) is not really the norm. In many instances, the man will have ulterior motives for wanting to develop a friendship with a woman too. Sometimes it might be the woman who is looking for something more out of the relationship too. It just depends on who is finding who attractive. If both find one another attractive, chances are there is going to be some level of sexual tension in this "friendship."

If that is something you want to deal with, and something you are honest about to your spouse or SO and your spouse or SO is okay with you spending time with this person, then I guess it's no big deal. This isn't to say that everyone would ACT upon these feelings either, but to deny they exist is just beyond silly. Lol.

Men Can't Be Friends With (Attractive) Women: The Science

 

[ChrisL]

To the ladies, have you ever read some of these "self help guides" on the internet for men? If not, I would suggest that you do that ASAP. Lol. These little things can help clue you in to what some men are REALLY thinking.

Don't be stupid, please. You just make the rest of us look bad and stupid like you.

 

[Gracie]

What would your definition be of a "friend"?
Do you have many "real friends"?

Do you think friendship means different things to different people?
Do you think it's possible for men/women to be friends without one being a "little more interested" than the other?

The term "friend" is difficult. So many use that word so freely and it is such a sacred thing to be handing out willynilly. It's like the word respect. Hard to define, difficult to keep or give, depending on the time and effort taken to give or receive it.

Friend to me is something bestowed on someone that earns it. And vice versa. Once given, it would take something truly horrific to end it. I have, not counting family, no more friends that I can count on one hand and that includes online. YES, you can have a true friend you have never met face to face. It takes time. It takes sharing. It takes trust. It takes giving freely your spirit and soul to someone who DESERVES that honor.

 

[Gracie]

Dogs make perfect friends.

Exactly. I love my dogs. And my cat when I had one. They love you no matter what. Period. And they will never take that friendship away..no matter how horrific you are. They don't care. It's is undying, forever love. True love.

 

[Spinster]

I have to admit that since I've been married I haven't had any close friends.

Oh, and I've never had a female friend that was attractive yet I had no attractions for her. Face up to your humanity. It's okay to be sexually attracted to someone and not act on it. Sometimes that makes the friendship better.

dunno... depends on your commitment to your marriage, the health of your marriage and your will power.
seems like it's "tempting fate" to me....

Well, if you don't want to test your resolve you could always refuse to make any friends. At this point perhaps the aggravation just isn't worth it anymore. I think that if a couple is truly happy they don't need friends anyway. They prefer each others company.

Totally disagree with that. Being happy with each other has nothing to do with having friends outside of the relationship.

Depends on the friends.

If a woman is always friends with lots of men obviously she doesn't get everything she needs from her husband or spouse. Their friends are just fillers for whatever the spouse may be lacking, be it conversation or mutual experiences. Men will settle for sex or an attractive wife, but women like the whole package.....much more than men. Perhaps this is because women are usually less superficial.

I know I'm exposing my bias a little.

In some cases, absolutely. I think your spouse should be where you go for your emotional support and needs. Why would you have to go outside your marriage for emotional support and needs? Perhaps some people are happy or content with such relationships. I have a friend (recently divorced, mind you - lol), who used to vacation separately from her husband (he would go on vacation with his friends/she with her friends). Their relationship always seemed like more of a partnership? If you know what I mean. I guess in that type of situation, you would need to have your friends for emotional support and they would be a very important part of your life. However, my friend ended up cheating on her husband with one of their MUTUAL friends (who was also married). Her husband divorced her and got custody of the kiddies! I was like, wow, are you dumb. She didn't even have to work. Her hubby paid all the bills.

Hate, absolutely despise, that kind of thinking! Women, that depend on their husband, who "don't have to work" because her "hubby pays all the bills" deserve everything she gets MINUS everything he worked for in his job. Women amaze me with their expectations that he not only owes her to be treated like a princess, the house, his retirement, and the kids. For sitting on her ass??? Really? Women are THE stupidest beings on the planet. Why would anyone engineer their own dependence on someone?

 

[Dhara]

I have many good, close friends. I'm married to my best friend. I have friends from all over the country.

I consider a friend someone that I have a mutual respect and closeness with.

 

[Spinster]

My final comment on this thread:

Anyone that claim that no one can have a friendship with a female without the man being attracted to them tell me so much about the individual that making that comment.

They most likely believe every man that look their way and give them a smirk that they mistake as a smile meaning the man is interested in them in a sexual way when it could actually mean the man is just being kind and polite after the woman stood there staring at them until the man looked their way.

I know how dare I write something like that when every straight man should be wanting to rip their clothes off and want sexual favors from them.

Also using a study that make it clear most men in general think one way is not helping the argument with me. The fact still remain that some men do not act that way and they're not gay nor is the sexual life dead either.

I know how dare I write something like that!

Also when someone write the man must be gay then tell me how shallow the individual is, and most likely believe that if a man does not find them attractive and not want to have sex with them then it mean they must be gay, but what they might not understand is that the man may find them to be worthless twits not worth the time to even strike up a conversation.

I know how dare I write something like that!

As for my friend and why there is no sexual chemistry is because she is my friend and to be my friend mean you have to be someone I trust with my life, and I would die for you and she is as nuts as I am in real life.

I do not care if Chris L. accepts this nor do I care if Bonzi accepts it either. If the two of you want to write the guy has to be gay then it tell me the type of individual you are and how shallow the two of you are.

The two of you can respond to you are blue in the face and call me on what I wrote but the reality is neither of you know me and to imply someone a phony and liar like Chris L. did is total bullshit on her part.

Also telling someone that they should stay civil toward her after the countless of times she implied that the person is a phony and liar is like me telling someone to be civil after I write that they are a worthless *****, and there is no civility left.

So let me wrap this up with this:

1. A man can be friends with a female without any sexual attraction and those that say that is not true are shallow individuals that have no opposite sex friends.

2. If a man is this way they are not gay and those that make that claim are no different then those men that call a woman a lesbian when the woman rejects them in life.

3. If you want civility then don't imply someone is a phony or a liar or gay, and if you do the civility is out of the window, and you caused it and not the other poster.

That is it, and I will not respond further in this thread nor anymore of Bonzi threads and I am sure she will write that it is not great loss but making it clear I am done with the mean girl bullshit on this site...

Mud was the one who asked if you were gay. Lol.

I think a man CAN be friends with a female that he does not find attractive. Men are visual creatures and yes, they are going to think of a female they find attractive in a sexual manner if they are heterosexual. That is just biological sex drive in men. Totally normal. Nothing to feel ashamed about.

Yep, men are just animals. Bullshit, Chris! Why don't you try posting about something you know about? Oh, that's right, you know zero about anything. Got it.

 

[ChrisL]

My final comment on this thread:

Anyone that claim that no one can have a friendship with a female without the man being attracted to them tell me so much about the individual that making that comment.

They most likely believe every man that look their way and give them a smirk that they mistake as a smile meaning the man is interested in them in a sexual way when it could actually mean the man is just being kind and polite after the woman stood there staring at them until the man looked their way.

I know how dare I write something like that when every straight man should be wanting to rip their clothes off and want sexual favors from them.

Also using a study that make it clear most men in general think one way is not helping the argument with me. The fact still remain that some men do not act that way and they're not gay nor is the sexual life dead either.

I know how dare I write something like that!

Also when someone write the man must be gay then tell me how shallow the individual is, and most likely believe that if a man does not find them attractive and not want to have sex with them then it mean they must be gay, but what they might not understand is that the man may find them to be worthless twits not worth the time to even strike up a conversation.

I know how dare I write something like that!

As for my friend and why there is no sexual chemistry is because she is my friend and to be my friend mean you have to be someone I trust with my life, and I would die for you and she is as nuts as I am in real life.

I do not care if Chris L. accepts this nor do I care if Bonzi accepts it either. If the two of you want to write the guy has to be gay then it tell me the type of individual you are and how shallow the two of you are.

The two of you can respond to you are blue in the face and call me on what I wrote but the reality is neither of you know me and to imply someone a phony and liar like Chris L. did is total bullshit on her part.

Also telling someone that they should stay civil toward her after the countless of times she implied that the person is a phony and liar is like me telling someone to be civil after I write that they are a worthless *****, and there is no civility left.

So let me wrap this up with this:

1. A man can be friends with a female without any sexual attraction and those that say that is not true are shallow individuals that have no opposite sex friends.

2. If a man is this way they are not gay and those that make that claim are no different then those men that call a woman a lesbian when the woman rejects them in life.

3. If you want civility then don't imply someone is a phony or a liar or gay, and if you do the civility is out of the window, and you caused it and not the other poster.

That is it, and I will not respond further in this thread nor anymore of Bonzi threads and I am sure she will write that it is not great loss but making it clear I am done with the mean girl bullshit on this site...

Mud was the one who asked if you were gay. Lol.

I think a man CAN be friends with a female that he does not find attractive. Men are visual creatures and yes, they are going to think of a female they find attractive in a sexual manner if they are heterosexual. That is just biological sex drive in men. Totally normal. Nothing to feel ashamed about.

Yep, men are just animals. Bullshit, Chris! Why don't you try posting about something you know about? Oh, that's right, you know zero about anything. Got it.

Oh I'm sure YOU probably have no idea what I'm talking about. Lol.