If rape was about sex why wouldn't everybody rape somebody? We all like having sex right?
If rape is about violence, then why bother with the rape at all when a punch in the face is far more efficient at expressing the violence?
If rape isn't about sex then why are the targets of rape all women who are in the prime of their sexual attractiveness rather than women who are older, more powerful and in positions to piss people off?
How much societal aggravation do 16 year old girls cause compared to professional harridan feminists?
Rape is about power. Not sex.
Rapists target all sorts of victims of all ages and degrees of "attractiveness". Old women in wheelchairs are raped as well as prepubescent girls.
"Feminism" is a life philosophy, a belief that all people, male and female, are equal. Men can be and are "feminist", just as women can be and are.