So I'm going to jump in here......
You two have arguments that seem to jump all over the place, but the main problem is assimilation.
In order to have a society that builds itself up, instead of tearing itself apart... you need to have some level of assimilation.
One of the primary reasons that Asians in general do quite well in America, and have a higher standard of living than White Americans, is because they actually come here with the intention of assimilating.
For example, I think people would be shocked at how many Asians intentionally take American names, to fit in. Compared to for example, the number of Black people in this country that intentionally take un-american names, and then complain they can't get a job.
We have girl working here, whose name is Moniqua. Can't hardly even say it right. We have an Asian here, whose name is Jessica.
Facts are.... people with American sounding names, are more likely to be promoted. Now you can scream and yell, but those are the facts. Jessica's Asian name, is Wai-chun. Pronounced "way- chune".
But she wants to assimilate. She wants to be successful. She wants to be accepted and part of our society. So she adopted the name Jessica.
Now how this relates to the Honduras Caravan, is that there are disturbing signs in this caravan.
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Why are they all waving Honduran flags? Why are singing Honduran patriotic songs? A can promise you the Jewish refugees from Germany were not waving German flags, and singing German patriotic songs.
Same with Cubans coming here to escape Cuba.
In fact, not even Haitians did this.
So it does make us wonder what they are thinking, and if they really intend to assimilate into our country.
I have a Chinese sister in law. I cannot pronounce her Chinese name. Her "white" name is Grace. Her Chinese friends call her by her Chinese name. Only non Chinese call her by Grace. Her daughter goes to Chinese school. She learns the Chinese language, history and geography. She learns to read in Chinese.
I assure you, while my sister in law is a wonderful person and her daughter is kind and polite, neither of them have the slightest interest in assimilating. They are merely preparing for a Chinese future.
But taking an American name, alone.... is assimilation.
Assimilation does not mean cutting out of your life, all of your heritage. That's a weird concept to me. Jewish people have assimilated into American culture very well. That doesn't mean they are no longer jewish, or that they don't have Bar Mitzvah.
But there are groups in this country today, that refuse to celebrate American holidays, and then get mad they can't celebrate their own holidays. We had this happen at my place of word sometime ago. Had some people that wanted to get the day off, and it was just a normal work day for us, but in their home country it was a holiday. We told them you don't get this day off. They wanted to leave anyway. We told them if they leave, don't come back. They got mad.
THAT... is refusing to assimilate. I don't see Asian people doing that.
Another example would be those middle eastern people in Colorado that wanted to wander off and pray while working on an assembly line. The company of course refused. They were fired. Now they are mad at this country.
No... you assimilate. We don't operate like the middle east, where you can wander off to pray 5 times a day. I don't see Asians doing that.
Another example I saw personally, was soccer. This is kind of a wonky example, but is does illustrate the problem. So I had a roomy that loved soccer. Well we love football. We don't watch soccer that much here.
So Superbowl rolls around, and people ask him to hang out, and he refused. Then the world cup rolled around, and of course no one wants to watch that, so he's by himself, all alone, watching the world cup on a streaming, in my basement.
It was pretty sad, and you could tell he was lonely. But I don't care about soccer, and I am not going to watch a boring sport I don't like.
Now again, this is not a critique of soccer.... but if you come to the US, you are going to have a hard time finding friends and people to have community with, when you have nothing common.
We had a family of Asians join my parents Church. And jumped in, head first into the culture. They did not stop being Korean, and they didn't stop teaching their children to speak, and read Korean. They didn't stop having Korean food, or culture.
BUT.... the did show up when OSU was playing, with a Buckeyes shirts, and cheering and watching the game, with the rest of us.
They assimilated. That's why all of their kids went on to have successful careers in high paying fields. And their girls Korean names were not Sarah and Michele.
Now, I do not know specifically about your friends obviously.
It is possible that your friends do in fact avoid assimilation. Of course there are always exceptions to any general rule.
Regardless, as a general rule, Asians do in fact assimilate into the culture, and very well. That is why they are more successful as a group, than white Americans.