I've never understood the whole swinger deal.
What's not to understand?
Tonight we went to a party and ended up in a room with 3 other couples plus a single female*. A good time was had by all. Everyone went home with their mate. Or stayed over in the room.
Trust is very important, but in a weird way it's also easier to give. Why would I want to cheat (have sex without my partner's knowledge) when I can have any man I want? Why would he ever cheat when he can have any woman he wants? Sex is fun, but it's different for us when it's between us or with other people. When I'm with my guy it's a deep emotional connection as well as a gratifying physical experience. When we're "playing" it's different. It's just fun. That's all. Mature people can do this and it can work. Fragile, emotionally weak people can't imagine how it can work. If you're counting on some social contract to keep your mate faithful then I pity you. You have NOTHING. My guy and I have something so much better. We have real trust. We talk about everything. We share what we enjoyed about our other partners. There's no jealousy, just learning how to please each other better and becoming so much closer for our ability to just open up and share.
Sometimes I have these dreams where my insecurities come out. I tell him about how I'm fearful of him getting back together with his ex, or how he'll be with someone that satisfies him better than I can. And he holds me close and tells me how I'm being silly, that no 1 could satisfy him better. We are THAT free to tell each other anything. He tells me how he sometimes worries I'll want some hardbody boy with a 9" cock instead of him. It's all so beautiful because we can truly share anything with each other. I don't know if it's because we swing or not, but I feel I have the best relationship EVER. I feel bad for anyone that can't be as free as we are with each other.
* She's part of a couple but her guy in in the Army and he's in Cali right now but they are ok with playing apart.