Here's the number one reason good people cheat, folks
LUST doesn't last, but LOVE does, often growing stronger despite that loss of libido.
So people can truly love another and want to stay with that person for whom they no longer lust.
Biology knows nothing about morality. Hence we often find our heads at war with our hearts.
Come on now, I'd not telling any of us who are adults anything we don't already know, am I?
The PA Deutch have a phrase which comes to mind:
Kissing wears out...cookin' don't.
Isn't it possible to lust after more than one woman ?
I cannot speak for women, but if you're a man of certain age, I'd say its virtually impossible NOT to lust after women regardless of the state of your heart, your marital status and so forth.
Isn't it possible to continue to continue to feel lust towards a mate ?
Yeah, I suppose so.
I have to tell you I
think it's kinda rare for two people who lust after each other for a very long time, though.
I say this most based on the divorce rates and the surveys which inform us about infidelity.
Do these data indicate that we are really prone to lifelong fidelity, or do they tell us something different?
I am drop dead certain that we all have friends who we know and like and respect who have committed infidelities. Do we think they EVIL people or merely morally weak?
None of this excuses infidelity, it merely informs us that perhaps our expectations about fidelity and a lifelong lust for a single person are somewhat unrealistic.
When I
first fall in love I don't SEE other women's charms. Other women might as well be frogs as women during that heady days when you overwhelmed by new love
But seriously, now...how long does that drunk on love last?
I doubt that lasts very long for men OR women, to be honest.
This is based on my own reseach into that subject and I have to tell you I was a pretty serious researcher in my day.
I mean who would NOT want to be blinded by love forever if they could be achieve that heady state?
I just don't think it's really possible for most people.
Love, not lust, can last a lifetime.
Of that I have absolutely no doubt.
