People don't realize how important birth control is. The reason the family has been disintegrating since 1965 is widespread use of birth control. Birth control within a marriage is a poison that harms the relationship between husband and wife, souring sex for both of them, and making it into something that is selfish.
I cannot convince you of this, since you have grown up with the idea that birth control is something that is good. However, this is a lie.
Birth control not only destroys marriages, but it is so closely linked to abortion, that once birth control is widely accepted, it is only a matter of a few years before abortion is widespread. Note that those who push abortion, push birth control first.
Why should women who in this day and age both want to work and need to work to pay bills and possibly have children when they are ready? Men cannot be the soul provider for most families anymore. Some people can't afford to have children or choose to buy a house before having children so they can grow up in a nice neighborhood with good schools, not in a small apartment that might have been convenient to commute to work from.
Some apartments don't permit children. breaking leases can be expensive and finding nice new apartments are not always easy to get into.
Maybe some have children and can't afford more at that time.
Why don't you try to find good home for all the children out there that need them before expecting women to have more?
I would rather if you are going to have a number of children to have a stable and supportive extended family around by too often grandparents are living in other states. We don't have two sets of retired grandparents that can be caretakers while the parents are working any more. Child care costs are almost as much a sending kids to private schools. For low income families it is more than anyone parent makes.
Women should be free to make life choices. It is not like birth control is anything new. It is as old, if not older, than civilization and recorded history. Now you want to tell women they should not be the one to decide when ti have children?
The failing of society are far more complex. When we have more jobs than people and families have more than enough money to begin a family you might try the subject again. Right now most people are struggling to afford the children they do have or need to seek assistance from the government/taxpayer who is also struggling to make ends meet let alone putting money in saving for retirement or anything else.
Some might be starting or building their own businesses, choosing to enjoy travel while they are still young, or enjoying a more comfortable life style. Some need to put money asside for the expense of having children later on.
It is not for you to tell people when and if they should have children, they have to decide that for themselves. When they are ready and want children they will be more likely to be loved and nurtured, not a burden on parents.
A woman or couple should have children when they choose to, when they are ready and full of love to give.
