To this I'll give you a little anecdote. Earlier today on this board, I had a discussion were I made the assertion. That I hardly ever do an ad hominem attack and when I do it's in a direct response to an attack someone else does. I was completely convinced of the truth of that statement. I thought since I'm pretty rational, not easily insulted and by nature respectful that was a completely true statement. What I found since I was paying attention to it on the OP, is that I do. Not that I was throwing insults around, but my arrogance sometimes prompted me to give little needles to people who hadn't attacked me during the OP. I could have sworn that I NEVER did it but I couldn't even stop myself from doing it in a single OP. Does this sound familiar in any way? I suspect that it does. Your brain fools most people constantly. It does it to protect your self-image, it does it for comfort, it does it so you won't be sad. Point is that you ARE fooling yourself if you think your brain doesn't play tricks on you.
This is not an example of a fooling itself. It's a simple example of reality. We see it almost every day on the news these days where the President says something and some news organization takes it the wrong way and insists they can tell us what the President "really" meant.
The same thing happens on Internet forums all the time. One person says something, and the other decides it is something they can take offense with. Someone insists what another member "really" meant, when that idea never crossed that member's mind. Shrug. Sometimes the Internet is more like a window, and often what is seen is a reflection of ourselves.
Here's the deal. I'm a true cream puff. Therefore, when someone engages in an ad hominen attack, I know I've run into a fellow cream puff. Something I have said has struck them in a hurtful way. Doesn't matter that it was not my intent. From teaching PE I know that without any intent at all a ball can take a weird bounce and someone gets hurt. While no one meant that weird bounce, but the pain is just as real. Some can shake it off. Others can't and engage in an automatic reflex or intended/ad hominen attack. When that happens here it is my policy to apologize and move on because what my brain can't know is what else is going to hurt them.
I am here to learn and to have fun. If I am conversing with someone it is because I am learning and having fun--and because I think they are here for the same reason (which may merely be a reflection of myself). When I ruin this fun for someone (induce an ad hominem attack from them), my personal policy is to take myself out of an interaction I was enjoying. My penalty to self for ruining someone else's enjoyment, if you will. Being a self-admitted cream puff, this is done with sorrow and regret on my part--which is only right. I'll then try to tip-toe even more lightly the next time--should another thread present such an opportunity.
Anyway, nothing that happened yesterday was my brain fooling itself. It was a brain assessing what happened and me acting on that assessment. My brain knows my intent. What it cannot know is how my words were received, or what weird bounce they may have taken. My brain may not be in the habit of fooling itself, but on the other hand it knows so very little. It cannot even pick up when someone I am communicating with is growing a bit agitated. It takes one of those full-blown explosions (ad hominem attacks) for it to take note.
But back to when I think of, or relate, an experience of God and the assertion that it MUST be a clear example of the brain fooling itself. In fact, my brain recognized the temptation to make the event even greater or more than it was. My brain then reacted to reign itself in and make sure I only relate (even to myself)
exactly what happened and withhold any conclusion that my small experience also proves all other assertions that are made about God. (Those assertions may well be true, but they weren't proved by my experience.)