Wow sealybobo, you bring up a difficult issue I have just recently been making some breakthroughs in myself.
A. When speaking with such theists, it is DEFINITELY important to them to
1. cite the scriptures as the source they respect so you are speaking to them using their language
2. invoke the spirit of the laws as a FELLOW believer so they know you are with them and not against them.
if you don't meet both the spirit and the letter of the law they commit to follow,
they will not hear your words. They will see you as outside, an adversary trying to speak falsely to deceive
and make them stumble.
Even if I do both 1 and 2, if they do not BELIEVE I am truly speaking truth, but
come as a false teacher abusing 1 and 2 to trick them and cause division or confusion,
they will still reject what I am saying.
So even the fellow Christians trying to resolve this with fellow believers have difficulty!
B. What I find works is citing the passage that
some Eunuchs are made by God and some by man.
And explaining this doesn't mean people cannot change, it doesn't mean once you are born that
way physically that's it.
it just means Spiritually you are meant to be born a certain way, and/or meant to change if that happens.
If God's will is supreme and in control, then all this must be following God's plan, changes or not.
And it helps to cite Christians who have found that either
a. they were meant to change, and acknowledge this is a valid path
b. they weren't meant to change, and this happens also!
BOTH can happen, it is NOT either/or,
all one way or another.
Sealybobo the disadvantage you have is if you do not believe
in either #1 or #2 so you do not relate to such theists as your peers.
The Biblical way to rebuke our fellow peers is given in scripture
Matthew 18:15-20, which I apply in these cases as trying to
correct someone from "bearing false witness".
Even fellow Christians have trouble rebuking their own using this
which is the tried and true method if any such correction is going to be heard and received!
So if even fellow Christians cannot reel and reign in all members of the flock,
of course, someone seen as coming from the outside as an adversary to be opposed
is not going to be heard.
Please leave it to the fellow Christians to rebuke fellow members,
and instead of rejecting them, support them in succeeding.
As we grow together in agreement, these things will weed themselves out.
There are enough Christians who are supporting the understanding
that there are different paths going on, and don't negate each other.
Christians would have to agree among each other first,
and the rest will work itself out.
There is both a language barrier and a faith barrier.
And as I said before, the worst barrier is when people do not forgive
each other, then the changes cannot take place in an environment of
opposition, rejection and fear. Changes occur mutually between people
in relationship with each other, so both must be equally open to
receive the change for it to manifest fully. The fear and division
blocks this process when people aren't ready for mutual change.
I try to point this out to theists who are anti gay who say being gay is a choice. I try to explain to them that what they just said is only true for them. So in a way anyone who thinks being gay is a choice, whether they know it or not, is a bi sexual. They may choose not to sleep with the same sex, but to them not doing so is a choice. Maybe because their church, society and parents told them it was wrong but regardless, they are a bi who chooses to be straight.
Now as me if I could ever choose another man. Answer is no.
Now ask Richard Simmons if he could ever be with a woman.
The gays who get guilted into pretending to be straight, like Michelle bachman's husband, he is probably a bi who leans way to the gay. Or he is only fooling himself. It is possible he's a self loathing full on gay who's convinced if he goes gay he'll go to hell so he says in a sexless marriage with Michelle.