"Why is it bad for kids to be in a family where there are two men?"
Your question is irrelevant and obfuscation.
The only thing I have ever stated is it is bad for two homosexual men or two homosexual woman to adopt a heterosexual child who has lost his or her entire family. Losing ones mother and father is thee most tragic thing that can happen to a child. What do you think that child is thinking well waiting to be adopted? You would force that child into a homosexual lifestyle.
Not at all, I don't think you're right, so I'm asking you why you think that.
Yes, of course, a child who is going through a difficult period in time needs a stable family environment. Single people can adopt. Is this a stable environment?
Why are gay people automatically not stable?
If you had a choice between a child staying in a residence, without that proper family life, or going with a gay couple in a stable environment, which would you choose?
The point being that the more choices there are for a child, the better, right? All prospective parents should go through thorough screening, anyone who isn't compatible with the child should not be considered for a child. All of that sensible stuff.
I would not rule out gay parents adopting just because they're gay. Perhaps with certain children I would rule out gay parents adopting them. Depends on the individual case.
"Is it about sex? Hell, I've known plenty of people to walk in on their parents doing it. It's something kids end up finding out about anyway. But what's that got to do with anything?"
This comment is a nice gem, you ask me if its about sex, and then explain to me sex is natural and kids walk in on parents doing it all the time. NO KIDDING. But what does not happen all the time is for those same kids to lose their parents, find themselves in an Orphanage with their entire life destroyed.
Of course your response leaves out all reference to homosexuality, why not describe your thoughts with the descriptive of what we are speaking about, homosexuality.
So as long as you brought it up, tell us all how you think the Boy who lost his Mom and his Dad, who is Orphaned, now adopted into a homosexual lifestyle not of his choosing, tell us how he will react when he walks into a bedroom and finds his new dad and dad doing something sexually unnatural? In the context of losing the ones he loves, how does he react?
No, it doesn't happen all the time, and it can be traumatic no matter where a child goes. Who is best for an individual child?
The "it can't be gay people" is just silly. It could be that a gay couple is the right couple for a troubled child. It could also be that a gay couple isn't the right couple for a troubled child. It depends on each case.
I'd suppose that any child who walks in on two men having sex might have the same reaction to a man and a woman having sex. They'd probably be in shock. Are they more likely to walk in on a gay couple or a straight couple then?
"It's something kids end up finding out about anyway."
Finding out about mom and dad making love is one thing, and yes they find out about that, but that is not what we are talking about, what we are talking about, homosexuality. So to answer your question, your comment has nothing to do with what we are talking about.
You did a fair job at dodging, I suspect you want me to talk more about the sexual aspect so that we can turn the tables and make me sound like some sort of sexual prude.
There are so many dynamics in a family, which are completely lost and broken when kids lose their parents, your ideas and response to my post is irrelevant.
You see my posts, my threads, what you state here is irrelevant, you talk about normal, happy, and everything sweet and nice while that fact that the children that do not have both a mother and father, biologically, can never live normally, they can succeed, they can make money, they can be happy, and say so on questionnaire, but always there is that part that is hurt and broken for not knowing or for losing one or both parents.
Marriage Equality, will always abuse children adopted into or designed (test tube babies) into homosexual lifestyles, its simply not natural, at the least to be without ones parents, even less so if one is forced into a homosexual lifestyle that one does and would not choose.
Why is finding out about homosexuality harder than heterosexuality?
No, not dodging.
You say so many things are lost, as if there is going to be a difference with a heterosexual couple than a homosexual couple. There WILL be differences in how children react, maybe not all, but some. However to generalize is nonsense.
You say it's not natural to go into a homosexual lifestyle. It's also not natural to go into a central heatinged house with a big car outside, a washing machine and so on. But kids somehow adapt to that.
Again, it seems that adults have a harder adapting than most children do. Don't put your prejudices into the minds of kids who don't care about them.
Also, the debate about adoption and marriage, two different things. Adopting agencies should screen all couples and single people who adopt (how natural is a single parent for a disturbed child????) and make sure children are put into the right place.
No one should have the right to adopt, they should be considered equally, but some just might not be the right people.
So what?
You'd deny gay marriage because adopting agencies can't do their job properly?