angelicaT
maybe i should not have used the word paki tho unlike you i knew it aint abusive in usa or india
but what i did when my kids were called pakis was to call them pakis myself as a joke to take the sting out of it and so they wouldn't become victims......and it worked well; they didn't get bashed or abused because it just made them smile...they are indian after all!!
so in my world and family we have reclaimed what aint an intrinsically abusive word and turned it into a friendly word
i still call my ex wife and step kids pakis as a word of endearment
just like blax call each other *******
even my close pak friends enjoy being called paki by an affectionate friend
my closest pak friend yasmin i call a paki fool because fool in urdu and hindi means flower, eg jasmine
so that's why i used it tho you are right i probably should have used pak instead which is the respectable indian short form
i have no respect, however for the country pakistan (and its govt and institutions) which i consider part of india and us brits guilty of a major crime in creating it...as with israel
2 partitions that should never have happened and the world would be better if they had not
so i often call it porkistan and wish it to disappear back into its indian motherland
for that view i make no apology at all
Perhaps you should re-read my posts since I make it abundantly clear from the start that I am aware that 'Paki' is not perjorative in the US and in other places too. But you live in the UK where it is. What you and your family and friends accept is up to you, but I am shocked that even knowing it is considered abusive and racist, you can't be bothered to just write the word out properly on a public message board. But thats up to you, I've said all I can be bothered to on the subject now.
I agree with you regarding the terrorist training state of Pakistan but it isn't going to disappear back into its Indain motherland any time soon